The First Time You Fart In Front Of Someone You Like

Farting, from my perspective, is a totally natural thing that everyone does and shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed about. But mamma didn’t raise no fool—I am aware that a vast majority of people are both ashamed and embarrassed about farting, even though I’m not. I’m also aware that a vast majority of this vast majority are women, and moreover I am aware that most women only fart perfume and poop rainbows (everyone has to fart and poop OK, girls just do it prettier sometimes).

Despite all the farting and pooping of flowers and cute stuff like glitter and kittens, a lot of people feel uncomfortable farting in front of the person they like, or “grossed out” by the person they like farting in front of them. Personally, a boy’s reaction to my first shared bum trumpet will tell me everything I need to know about him. If he is accepting, we might have a future. If he laughs, man, are we going to have a good time. If he takes it as a queue to let one rip himself, that’s it, I’m falling in love. If he turns up his nose, says “ew” or any other form thereof, there is no future for us. Simple.

Farting has always informed the level of affection and intimacy in my relationships. The Great Love Of My Life, for instance, would hold me down when we’d be wrestling like puppies and fart on my face. He would also lead my other two male roommates in pre-planned ambushes that would result in them holding me down and taking turns farting on me. Don’t think I didn’t hold my own—they were all victims of my fart pillows, walk-bys and Dutch ovens.

I’ve had similar relationships with my brothers, the “come-over-here-and-look-at-this-crazy-thing-I-found… PSYCH! I JUST FARTED AND IT REEKS!” type that involves constant fart related punking of one another. This also includes swimming in the ocean and “OMG I-just-found-a-warm-patch-come-over-here… PSYCH! I JUST PEED! YOU’RE SWIMMING IN MY PEE!” and hiding in nooks around the house to jump out and terrify one another or cork each other’s legs. If you don’t have brothers, you’re not going to understand any of this, but then, I don’t have sisters so I don’t understand any of that.

No matter what your stance on farts, there will come a time in your relationship where you will fart in front of your partner. Hush now—you know I’m right. Try as you might in the early stages, you won’t be able to avoid it once you start spending every waking second together. THE AIR WANTS TO EXIT YOUR ANUS AND YOU CAN’T FIGHT IT FOREVER. If you do, you’ll die, or explode in one giant fart. What’s more is you can’t control sleep farts. So even if you’ve been successfully holding them in all day chances are you’re going to be snoring out of your asshole all night. YOU HAVE TO SLEEP SOMETIME.

What I’m trying to say it doesn’t matter whether you like farts or not—you’re going to have to do them at one time or another. My advice? If you’re with someone squeamish or you’re precious about your bowel movements, get on your pelvic floor exercises (clench that glut) and learn to control your windy excretions, or bring a dog with you everywhere you go and blame it on him. Or if you’re anything like me, just let it come when it comes, and hopefully you’ll get to laugh it off with someone so special they’re not freaked out by totally normal, natural bodily functions. And remember even if you think it’s gross, the best reaction you can ever hope for from your lover is, “good one, babe,” as they smile proudly in the aftermath of your butt bomb. TC mark

image – matiasjajaja


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  • Lindsay

    This article made me grateful I never had brothers. 

  • Forbidins

    Some people don’t like breathing into their lungs the air that was swirling around the shit in your asshole.

    Crazy, I know.

    • BGE

      you poop rainbows, dontcha?


        I didn’t know Sarah Palin read thoughtcatalog.

        Anyway, I get it, some girls want to be assertive about their farts to avoid awkwardness. They think if they keep repeating over and over how much farts rock then you wont judge them when the inevitable happens. Here’s the thing though, you can be secure about your body without pretending that a fart is anything but aspirated shit. No one expects your shits to smell like wild flowers. What’s annoying is
        acting surprised when people don’t want to smell your rancid curdled
        milk farts.

      • guest

        thank you.

  • Anonymous

    how about having contests with your 14 male cousins on who can light their farts on fire and produce the biggest flame

    • Katgeorge

      mum wouldn’t let us light our farts.

      • Anonymous

        it can get a bit treacherous 

  • Shwax

    Loved this article. Would have loved it more, however, if you hadn’t used “queue” where you meant “cue”.

    • Popdatshist

      Damn autocorrect!

  • Michael Koh

    I changed ‘farting’ to ‘felching’ and the result was similar. 

  • Jesssim6

    Guys, guys, a fart ain’t gonna kill ya.

    Loved the caps by the way.

  • Asdf

    I farted while reading this article. And I liked the article. Go figure.

  • Paul Ryan

    $5 says this girl is into scat.

  • guest

    i’m a farter, don’t get me wrong, but once i got to that comfort level with my boyfriend, he became my ex boyfriend because our relationship had turned into more of a best friendship rather than a passionate and romantic relationship

    • Guest2

      happened to me as well, i hope to see an article on TC about the boyfriend-turned-bestie sometime soon

  • Joy Jalapolis

    Great article, Kat! I’ll laughed my farts off!

  • Ruthy

    I’m proud to say that I fart while reading this. Good article Kat! Love your “I don’t give a fuck about your opinion” attitude.

  • Nick

    You are a digusting human being.

    • Mary Stathos

      Why? Is it disgusting to accept our bodies for how they are and what they do?

  • kmarizo

    Any male experience a female letting out an accidental fart while your pounding her from behind….. doggie style? Yeah, I did. It was kind of sexy in a strange kind of way

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  • jojo

    My farts are very loud and long and I love a hot chick that can fart with the best of us my kinda women

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