1. Giving me false hope. I don’t want you to make empty promises in order to impress me. If you tell me you’re going to do something, then I want you to follow through on it. I don’t want to get excited about a trip or a date you wanted to whisk me away on, only to realize later that you were all talk. I take people at their word and I’m honest about mine. I don’t want you to lie to me in order to impress me. What’s impressive is making promises you can keep. What’s impressive is staying honest with me, no matter what happens. If you try to string me along or pepper our conversation with little white lies, I’m going to notice. And I’m going to leave.
2. Looking down on my hobbies, my career, or my dreams. I’m serious about my goals. I put a lot of time and effort into pursuing them. I need to be with someone who understands how important my dreams are to me and who pushes me forward, not someone who laughs at what I’m trying to accomplish and who belittles how I spend my days. If you’re going to be with me, you need to support what I’m setting out to accomplish. I’m never going to put my dreams on hold for a relationship. I’m never going to give up on my aspirations because love got in the way. I can have it all — and if I can’t have it with you, I’ll find it with someone else.
3. Disrespecting my time. I stick to a strict schedule. I need to know the game plan ahead of time. If you cancel on me at the last second, after I’ve already set aside time for you and started getting ready to see you, I’m going to be pissed. I don’t want you to take too long to set plans with me either. I hate when people ask whether I’m available over the weekend, find out I’m free, and then fail to let me know whether they want to hang out. Do I keep my schedule free on the off chance you text me to meet up? Do I find other plans and look like an asshole when you ask to hang out at the last second and I’m already busy? If you want me, you need to know how to manage your time, because I’m not going to waste mine.
4. Having zero interest in what I have to say. I’m a talker. I like to ramble about the shows I’ve been watching, the books I’ve been reading, and whatever drama I’ve been having. If you nod along while I’m speaking, or try to change the subject in the middle of the conversation, I’m not going to be happy. I need someone who finds my stories interesting. I need someone who is going to laugh along with me, even when I’m talking about things they normally couldn’t care less about. I’m not going to shut up, so neither of us is going to be happy unless you’re invested in what I’m saying.