1. You don’t like the person you are when you’re with your partner. Maybe you’re overly jealous. Maybe you are too competitive or bitter or resentful. Whatever the case may be, the wrong person can bring out your most toxic traits. If you find a better fit, someone who encourage you to be your best self, then you might be more confident with yourself and your relationship as a whole.
2. You’ve stopped making sense together. You might have been a perfect fit when you first met. However, people change. They grow. Their wants and desires and needs change. Just because you fell in love with someone years ago doesn’t mean you should stay with them today. You shouldn’t feel pressured to stay in your relationship because you have history. It doesn’t matter how much fun you had with them yesterday. It matters how you feel about them today.
3. You’ve had your eye on someone else lately. Some crushes are harmless. Others are bound to become a problem. The last thing you want to do is cheat on your partner. You don’t want to force yourself to stay in the wrong relationship when the right person comes along, either. The best thing you can do is break up with your person now so you have a chance to explore your temptations.
4. You can’t trust your person to meet your expectations. You shouldn’t lower your standards in order to make a relationship with someone work. You shouldn’t sacrifice the things you consider necessary, simply because you’ve fallen in love. If you need someone who is loyal or respectful or reliable, and your partner cannot meet those basic expectations, then you should give yourself the chance to find someone new.
5. You feel like you’re their babysitter, not their partner. Your relationship shouldn’t feel one-sided. You shouldn’t feel like you’re doing everything for your partner while they’re barely lifting a finger to help — or to thank you. Your partner should be your equal, your teammate, your confidant. They should be there for you in all the same ways you’re there for them. If you can’t count on them, why are you with them?
6. Your futures look entirely different. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone. If your biggest dream is to have a family and your partner isn’t interested in having any children, you shouldn’t stay together. You don’t want them to end up resenting you — and you don’t want to end up resenting them. You need to find someone who wants the same things you want. Your dreams need to align.
7. You’ve been thinking about leaving for a while. Every relationship has their ups and downs. You don’t want to walk away on a whim without thinking your plan through. However, if you’ve been debating whether you should break up with them for a while, now is the time. You shouldn’t wait any longer. Leave as soon as possible so you have the chance to heal, to grow, and to find someone who is a better fit for you.