Why You're Never In Relationships For Longer Than A Few Months

Why You’re Never In Relationships For Longer Than A Few Months

You might feel insecure about the fact you’re never in relationships for longer than a few months. You might wonder why you’re always such a temporary piece of other people’s lives. You might wonder whether you’ve been doing something wrong, whether that’s cutting people out before you should or falling for the wrong people or pushing them too hard too fast. But you have to understand, it’s not necessarily a bad thing that people rotate in and out of your life so easily. It could actually be a good thing.

You’re never in a relationship for longer than a few months because once someone does you dirty, you walk away from them. You aren’t tempted to stay in a shitty relationship just so you can say you aren’t single anymore. You aren’t the type to fight for a relationship that’s already over. You know when to walk away. You know when enough is enough. You know when you deserve better.

You’re never in a relationship for longer than a few months because a few months is all it takes to get to know someone on the most basic level. You’re able to see their best and worst habits, and you’re able to ask yourself whether they’re someone worth settling down with. If you’re not happy with them when you’re supposed to be in the puppy love, everything they do is perfect phase, you’re certainly not going to be happy with them once the passion fades away, so it’s better you get out early.

You’re never in a relationship for longer than a few months because you know what you want and you aren’t willing to settle for anything less. You might want a serious relationship and they might want to mess around. You might want to move across the country and they might want to remain in your hometown. If you want totally different things, your relationship is never going to work out. One of you is always going to be disappointed, and you don’t want that to happen. You want someone who wants the same things you want. Someone who will be happy when you’re happy.

You’re never in a relationship for longer than a few months, and sometimes, you’re not the one to end it. Sometimes, they walk away from you. Sometimes, they decide you aren’t what they want after all. And even though it might break your heart, that’s okay, because during those few months you spent together, they were able to see the real, authentic you. If they weren’t able to handle you, then it’s better they’re gone. It’s better they’re giving you a chance to find someone new.

You might feel like it’s a bad thing you’re never in a relationship for more than a few months, but at least that means you never waste too much of your time on the wrong person. Once you realize they aren’t right for you, you’re able to move on. You’re able to restart your search for the love of your life. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

January Nelson is a writer, editor, and dreamer. She writes about astrology, games, love, relationships, and entertainment. January graduated with an English and Literature degree from Columbia University.