1. She’s been my best friend from the moment we became friends. I could tell very early on that she was a gentle and loving person who cares for people out of the good of her heart. She accepts me for who I am and all my weirdness and we both embrace each other’s flaws. She’s always inspired me to be a better person in a way no one else has.
She may be my first and only, but I’ve seen enough unhealthy, toxic, and abusive relationships secondhand to know that a woman like my wife comes along once in a lifetime and I didn’t want to let her pass me by. We love each other more every day.
2. Because he makes me the best version of me. We also have gone through so many hard times and we got through them stronger.
3. He had been my best friend for many years and after dating for a number of years I realized the entire time I never had any interest in any other people at all. Only ever wanted him in every way since the day we met.
4. He was and is everything I ever wanted in a partner. Just sitting in the same room with him lifts my spirits. We don’t need to talk or interact for me to just feel better (though talking and interacting is also awesome). Being in his presence is like being in a warm, loving glow.
I have never had a desire to be with anyone else after him. He’s the first and only. I don’t see why anyone would need to compare or shop around after finding the perfect mate – and he is perfect for me.
5. We started dating in high school. First bf/gf. First kiss. First everything. In 3 months we will celebrate 11 years married, but we have been together for 17 years.
I love our friendship. He is my best friend. We are VERY different people, and work hard to always take care of each other.
I love that I don’t have any jealousy, or baby momma/daddy drama, or ex-gf/bf craziness.
Our bedroom is active and on fire (even with 2 kids).
I adore him and can’t wait to reach my life goal of being little old people together.
6. I can tolerate her being around for long periods and more importantly, she can tolerate me being around for long periods. Besides, she’s totally out of my league and there’s no way I can get anyone better than her lol. And she thinks the same about me!
7. I met my husband in college and we just clicked right away. It was an actual love at first sight situation. From there, nothing came along to indicate we should break up. It’s kinda that simple. If it ain’t broke, marry it.
I just got lucky right outta the gate. My first boyfriend wasn’t a psychopath and I was in a place emotionally to be accepting of a serious relationship. I think one of the benefits to finding “THE ONE” so early is that, since you’re not done growing, the two of you can grow together. It’s like a retirement account. We put the work in early, so it’s paying off more. I’m not bothered by the idea that I didn’t get my heart broken a bunch and I didn’t have to deal with Tinder.
8. I am 50 and my wife is 49, we met when we were 10 and married at 18. I can be a fairly high strung guy, I’ve always had some form of anxiety. The first time I met her I instantly noticed I wasn’t jittery or anxious. When she left the anxiety and jitters returned. I was in 7th grade, sitting in math class and was having a horrible day. In the midst of my constant frustration I look up and she in the hallway waving me out. I get my hall pass, we walk around the to “blind” corner and she kissed me for the first time! I was shocked and she said, “I been waiting for the perfect time. I don’t know why but right now felt like the perfect time.”
She skipped back to class, after school I told her I was going to marry her because she makes me happy.
9. I met my husband in 1st grade, started dating when we were 14, and got married at 19. This May makes 9 years married.
Anyway, we just always clicked with each other and got along very well. Instead of growing apart like most kids do, we grew together. He’s a very kind man who has always been there for me. Even as teenagers, we never had a reason to break up because we got along so well. To this day, he is my very best friend. I can’t imagine anyone better than him.
10. She just… was. I don’t know how to explain it. We were friends for a couple of months beforehand, both played trombone and had a similar sense of humor, and she wanted to include me in stuff. I liked her as a person, appreciated her kindness and wit and beauty, and had a crush.
She kissed me one night, and the world changed. Spent a lot of time talking with her, fell full-on in love, and kept finding more and more things to love about her.
That was a bit over 17 years ago, and we’ve been married for the last 13. People still call us cute, and it’s occasionally hilarious to correct people that think we’re newlyweds or only married for one or two years. We support each other in ways I’d never thought possible, and really understand and know each other on an intuitive level. It’s a wonderful experience.
11. I guess you can say my wife was my first and only serious relationship. By the time I’d asked her out, I’d already known her for 5 or 6 years. I really fell for her after she accepted my faults. I know I’m not easy to be around. I’m impulsive toward things I want to do, I’m arrogant in certain things. She accepted all of that. Meanwhile, she told me about her faults, they are not many but one big one is staying at home is extremely painful to her.
I guess that’s why we are fit for each other. I can be impulsive and tell her I wanna go to the Grand Tetons at 3 AM, and at 4 AM we are on our way. She’s happy she’s not at home, I’m happy I can go adventure.
12. We can chill in silence together, doing our own things ands it’s comfortable. I love just being around him, it makes me happy that he encourages me to have my own interests and wants to spend time with me while I pursue them. He also helps me to learn about things I wouldn’t usually find interesting, and he’s patient with me when he’s teaching me things.
13. Everything was just.. easy. I’ve never thought about breaking up or been curious about being with someone else.
We met as flatmates and we just clicked. One day we realised we’d basically been dating for months – waiting for each other to come home, going for walks, long conversations, meeting each other’s friends.
Married for three years, together for seven. I’ve never wanted anything more than him.
14. She’s a very good person. My dad told me not to let her go. Our friendship was pretty effortless.
The only argument for letting her go was the fact that I was young(19) and hadn’t experienced other people.
She went to school in another state, we kept it going. Perhaps if either of us had met someone, we would have naturally broken up, but we didn’t. We rejoined, then did the long distance thing again. Then moved in together. Grew together. By the time we were married, we’d been together for 7 years. Marriage changed nothing.
The strength of our bond grew over time. It wasn’t like we were destined to be together forever at 19, but after years of really enjoying eachother, you ask yourself why wouldn’t you stay together?
15. We just got married in July but we’ve been together for 8 years all together. We dated in high school but I broke up with him…. Twice. He never let’s me forget that either. He makes me happy and that’s what I wanted from a relationship. There is something special about growing up and learning to love someone else and having that person teach you how to love yourself as well.
16. Met at 15… married at 29…
We are best friends. And I knew he would always love me and cherish me and treat me well. Everything else is a bonus.
Extra bonus points for his hilarious sense of humor. Life can suck but a well timed joke or a happy smile can make a world of difference.
17. She’s really cool. I’m pretty weird and she’s perfectly fine with that. We’ve been together for a little over 14 years, survived HS and college together (she was only one bridge away), went to grad school together (though in different programs), and now work in the same profession (though at different schools). There’s no one else I’d want to do all of this with.
18. She makes up for my flaws. I like to think I make up for hers. We are both happy and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. I honestly just feel lucky that we met each other. Even though it took a few years, marriage was something we always saw as the next step forward. No regrets from me.
19. He was the first non family member that saw me have a panic attack and not freak out. That was a big thing for me. Plus he literally is my best friend. Best friends first, husband and wife second.
20. She was the only person who I could tolerate talking to for more than 5 minutes. Like I despise social interactions. I don’t hate peple. I’m just shy, introverted, and socially awkward. And with her I don’t feel that.
I’m 30 when I married btw. So it’s not like I was inexperienced in being alone. meeting her was like finding gold in your bowl of cold spaghetti-os
21. My grandparents met at their church when they were 8 and 10, and in eight months they will be celebrating 50 years. I asked my grandma this question after seeing this, and she said: “He just seemed like a great guy who genuinely cared about me, and I’m happy to say I was right!” When I asked my grandpa, he said, “I knew since we were first dating that she was the one. We just fit together like bread and butter.” Anyway, great question!
22. We met online when we were 16 and 17. He was in England and I was in Australia. We were the youngest people in the little chat group that we were part of and initially just started talking because of that. One day during my summer holidays we talked for like 9 hours.. it was about 4am for him by that stage I think and he just couldn’t stay awake any longer. (Plus he knew he was going to be in big trouble for the dial-up bill!) Because of time zones and him having limited access during the week we started sending each other daily e-mails. It was exciting to wake up and know there would be an e-mail from him there. With every bit of communication we had, I wanted more. I am usually very shy, introverted and not keen on meeting or talking to new people.. it sends the anxiety sky-high. But when it came to the thought of meeting him, it was a much more terrifying thought to think about not doing it. And so I knew, really, before he even got here for the first time that he was important / special / the one because to feel so certain that it would be a huge mistake to not take the risk – despite my natural tendency to want to hide under a table – was.. a once in a lifetime thing.
It’s really corny and cliche to say but it really makes me wonder if there is some kind of higher power out there looking out for us and putting us in the right places to find each other. It seems like it would have been so unlikely, otherwise. Whether it was chance or some kind of matchmaking guardian angel, I consider myself incredibly lucky to have him.
We have been together for about 21.5 years now and will have our 20th wedding anniversary in October.
23. Social anxiety. We somehow started just fooling around with each other but it turned into a relationship so we never really “dated”. The mere thought of dating, being rejected, needing to decide was enough for both of us not to call it quits when things don’t go smoothly. Slowly we also realized that isn’t really the reason we’re together and we really like each other. Been together for 12 years now and we love each other like crazy.
24. First serious relationship, it felt right and why would I even want to change it? Married 6+ years.
25. For me, I had kind of chased another girl around for maybe a year or two. After that time I realized she and I just didn’t have the same priorities and goals in life (I was 17 she was 19). After she went to school I had met another girl and she really liked me for who I was and didn’t make me try to change who I was and never stupidly played hard to get while making self destructive choices in her life. The more we hung out the closer we got and then once we started dating I just kind of knew after the first month this was who I would be with. Sounds super cliche but it’s true, we’ve been together 9 years and married for 5 with a lot more on the horizon!
26. Multiple reasons.
When we first met, I naturally gravitated towars him and he gravitated towards me despite being with people I knew better and being very introverted and shy.
I was poor growing up so when we went out with friends to Taco Bell on the FIRST DAY WE MET I didnt buy anything. He gave me his nachos because he was “full”. My husband is a big guy who doesn’t get full easily.
He is a sweet guy who didnt pressure me into a relationship at all. We met in 2008 but didnt start officially dating until 2012.
His birthday is August 19th. If you calculate 9 months and one day later (a typical average of human gestation), that day is May 20th. Which is my birthday. We joke that I was literally made for him.
There are so many other little things but these stand out to me as special and unique.
27. The summer after 8th grade, a mutual friend knew him through church and told me I’d like him. He called that night, and I swear to you, I fell in love with him just by hearing his voice on the phone. He was 16 and I was 14. He drove over the next day, and I knew the second I saw him I loved him.
We’ve barely been apart since then. We started actually dating, like for real, when I was 16 and he was 18. He went away to college, and we both stayed in trouble for racking up long distance phone bills. I resorted to finding all the loose change I could find, and would call him from a pay phone. We’d talk until all my loose change was gone. I’d hang up and cry bc I missed him so much.
He stayed away at college for a year. Came home, and started at local college bc he didn’t want to leave me again. We ended up going through college together. Got out, bought and ran a business together. Got married. Continued working side by side for the next decade.
We had a baby about 2 years after we married. We’d trade off shifts, so one of us was always with our child, or we’d bring her with us to work.
We’ve now been married for 15 years, and together for 24 years. He’s my best friend, and the love of my life. I would never change a thing, and never once have I felt like I missed out on other guys. It’s always just been him. People say when you know, you know. And, I can definitely say I knew. He’s my everything, and I know without a doubt he feels the same bc he shows me everyday with his actions and his words.
28. I had gone on a couple first dates before, but never wanted to commit to continue dating anyone because it was just not worth the anxiety it caused.
So I met my (now) husband at work. Our first date lasted 36 hours. We stayed up all night in my apartment after our first date watching comedy specials and snuggling. My skittish cat was all over him too and I knew I was gonna keep this guy.
I’ve had this weird thing my whole life where I just don’t like to be touched or touch anyone. Brief hugs are tolerable, but someone touching my arm or accidentally brushing by me would really ruin my day and make me anxious. My own mother can throw me into a full blown panic attack sometimes. I have never had that reaction with my husband. I only ever feel safe and comfortable in his arms and I always find myself absentmindedly rubbing his back, arms or running my fingers through his hair.
29. My SO said it was the moment that I drove him two hours to go to a Warhammer Cafe in Dallas despite not having a personal interest. And then staying there until it closed while he geeked out and bought stuff.
He wasn’t my first boyfriend, but I was his first girlfriend. The day after we went to the cafe, I surprised him at home with a steak dinner for Valentine’s Day. He surprised me with a ring.
Getting married next year!
30. When I was 18 I was heavily into sports and gaming, and I had no time for anything else. Everyday after work was just hours of volleyball, ultimate Frisbee, basketball. After that I would head to a friend’s house for dinner and video games, rinse and repeat pretty much every day. During the winter we would get season passes and hit the mountain for snowboarding 40-50x a season. Well during that year my friend invited a whole bunch of people one weekend, and one of his friends sister came along. She had never snowboarded before, and she was completely deaf, but damn if she wasn’t the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. I blew my friends off and spent the entire day guiding her down the bunny slopes over and over. Couldn’t even talk to her because I didn’t know sign language, but we didn’t care. Had the best time ever. Cut to one month later and I’m driving to her town 4hrs away every Friday right after work, and coming home 4hrs every Sunday evening. 3 months later we said “screw it” and got engaged. Two years later we were married. That was about 13yrs ago, and now the only thing I do is hang out with her every day. I am a professional sign language interpreter (because of her) and we have awesome kids (also because of her). The concept of girls and dating wasn’t really a priority for me at the time, until she came out of no where like a sack of bricks lol. The funny part was she turned me down the first few times I asked her out too! But sometimes when you know, you just know.