Holly Riordan

It takes effort to love you. Toxic humans will make you feel like you’re unlovable, so they get credit for putting up with you. However, the right person won’t feel like you’re a burden.

It’s hard to stay soft in a world that is filled with so much pain. You should be proud of yourself for having such strong morals, for leading with kindness, for continuing to love with your whole heart.

Walking away from someone toxic is hard enough. However, not enough people talk about how hard it is to stay away.

Some people play mind games and pretend not to care in order to attract partners – but there are other ways to find love. There are people out there who appreciate honesty and vulnerability.

You probably aren’t as clingy as you’ve been led to believe. Some people will act like your behavior is unacceptable because your strong feelings are making them uncomfortable.

Your value doesn’t come from your productivity. You don’t have to earn a break. If you’re tired, you should take a breather because you’re a living creature who deserves to feel rested and relaxed.

Healing is a journey that lasts a lifetime. Even though you want to wake up in the morning completely healed, that isn’t the way pain works. You are going to have good days and bad days.

Sometimes, relationships can be repaired with enough tough conversations and compromises. Sometimes, communicating will at least give you some sense of closure. Other times, dealing with this person is not worth the headache they will give you.

It doesn’t matter whether you do the right thing. It doesn’t matter whether you treat everyone around you with love and respect. Your hard work isn’t always going to be appreciated.

For a moment, let’s set aside the fact that you’re probably more loved than you realize. You might not be in a relationship, but someone could be crushing on you from afar.

People who make you feel guilty about doing what’s best for yourself. You need to put your mental health first. If others don’t understand your needs, it’s not your problem.

Communication is one of the most important pieces to a strong, healthy relationship. Love isn’t enough. Effort isn’t enough. You need to feel like you can talk to your partner and encourage them to talk to you.

You’re lying to yourself about your happiness. It’s one thing to put on a fake smile and lie to the rest of the world. It’s even worse when you refuse to acknowledge the truth yourself.

You don’t want to find yourself trapped in a relationship where you’re always on alert.

You shouldn’t stay in a relationship where you’re miserable or lonely or neglected. If you want to try to make the relationship work for a while, that’s wonderful, but you need to stay realistic.

Change isn’t always negative. Sometimes, it’s exactly what you need in order to grow into the best possible version of yourself. It gives you the opportunity to see new places, meet new people, and explore uncharted sides of yourself.

This person is directing their effort elsewhere. You know they aren’t lazy because they can put in the work when the time is right. The problem is, they’re not putting in the work with you.

You feel emotionally drained after every conversation with them. This person is always involved in some sort of drama. They always have a problem with a friend, a partner, a relative, or a coworker.