Having History With Them Isn’t Enough

Having history with someone could keep you in the wrong relationship for longer than necessary. It could convince you to tough it out when things get bad, even though you deserve better and should leave. You don’t want to linger in the wrong relationship because you’ve already poured so many hours into it and feel like leaving would be a waste of all that time. History is important, but it shouldn’t be the only reason you stay. Having history with someone means you’ve been through a lot together. This person has seen every single side of you, even the parts you usually try to keep hidden. They know your little quirks, the signs you’re in a good mood, and the way your voice sounds when something is wrong. You don’t have to worry about revealing too much to them, because they already know everything about you. There aren’t going to be any more surprises. You can let your guard down and relax. But comfort isn’t the only quality you should look for in a relationship. You need a partner who respects you, accepts you, encourages you, and is supportive of you. If the only thing your partner has going for them is how long you’ve known each other, then you might want to rethink the relationship. Remember, history can be rebuilt. A complete stranger can become your new best friend. You just need to give it time, and even though you might be impatient to settle down, you don’t want to do that with the wrong person. You want to hold out for what feels right. It’s scary to jump into the dating game after being in a relationship for such a long time. But if you’re with the wrong person, time isn’t going to solve your problems. The longer you stay together, the harder it will be to leave. You’re only going to grow more attached, more worried about what will happen if you walk away. You won’t have history with someone new. But you’ll have something just as beautiful. Potential. You’ll have the opportunity to show them different sides of yourself. You’ll have the chance to form new memories and new traditions. Starting over sounds exhausting, but sometimes, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. You don’t want to stay with the wrong person because you feel obligated since you’ve already been through so much together. Your history doesn’t matter. How they treat you in the present matters. Whether you can picture them around in the future matters. Stepping into the unknown is always scary. It’s much easier to stay with someone who makes you feel comfortable, someone who you share a long, complicated history with. But sometimes, the hardest steps to take are the healthiest ones. They’re the ones that will encourage your growth, that will lead you toward the most fulfilling future. Remember, having history with someone shouldn’t stop you from making whatever decision is best for yourself. Living without someone you’ve had in your life for a long time is going to be a big change, but change isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes, it’s exactly what you need. Sometimes, it will bring you the type of happiness you didn’t even realize you were missing.