6 Concrete Signs You Need To Be More Like Barbie

Barbie is a film all about empowerment. It’s a reminder that you are capable of achieving anything you want and should never limit yourself. Unfortunately, in the real world, it’s hard to achieve that level of confidence. It’s hard to shake your doubts and take a real chance on yourself. Here are a few signs you need to be more like Barbie moving forward. (Warning: There are spoilers ahead!)

You never bring up your accomplishments in conversation.

You’re not bragging by bringing up achievements that are important to you, that you worked your butt off to receive. You are allowed to post about them and talk about them to your friends and family. They shouldn’t be some big secret. Remember that you are deserving of this success — and you deserve to bask in the moment. Enjoy it instead of simply moving onto the next thing without taking some time to celebrate.

You feel too guilty to set boundaries.

You shouldn’t accept a date with someone, or remain in a relationship with someone, just because they’re nice to you and you feel sorry for them. Barbie didn’t enjoy turning down Ken, but she did what was best for them both. You need to do the same moving forward. Don’t let anyone pressure you or guilt you into a relationship. If you don’t want to be with them, you don’t need a reason. Just say no.

You are always doubting yourself.

It’s natural to have unkind thoughts about yourself, but you shouldn’t dwell on them. You shouldn’t pick apart every little flaw when you look in the mirror, or hold yourself back from speaking because you’re afraid what you have to say isn’t important enough. You are allowed to take up space and use your voice. Like Barbie, you need to believe in your worth. Know that you are beautiful. You are intelligent. You are capable. You are strong.

You hold yourself back out of fear of failure.

Barbie can be anything she wants to be — and so can you. You shouldn’t hold yourself back because you’re worried you don’t have what it takes to succeed. So what if you fail? You can pick yourself up and try again. Remember, the only thing scarier than failing is never trying at all. You can’t live a life of fear or you’re never going to reach your full potential.

You constantly compare yourself to other women.

You shouldn’t tear others down to feel better about yourself. And you shouldn’t let another person’s success make you feel terrible about your own life. In the film, all the Barbies support each other. They are proud of each other’s accomplishments. They lift each other up and encourage each other because they understand there’s room for them all to succeed. They are an inspiration to each other, not competition.

You are obsessed with appearing perfect.

Although Barbie might start the movie out feeling like she needs to be perfect, she ends the movie deciding to be human instead. She no longer fears aging or having a hair out of place. She understands that she doesn’t need to be perfect in every single way in order to hold value. She just has to be her true, authentic self.