6 People You’re Allowed To Remove From Your Life

You don't have to have a huge falling out with someone in order to remove them from your life. If you simply aren't interested in talking to them, in hanging out with them, in putting effort into them, then you can leave.

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1. People who you’ve outgrown. You don’t have to keep someone in your world because of your long, elaborate history together. You don’t have to stay friends, simply because you got along once upon a time. People grow and change. It’s okay if you don’t have room for certain people in your life anymore. You’re allowed to reshape your life in whatever way you want. You’re allowed to rework your social circle. You’re not the same exact person you were ten years ago, so it makes sense if you don’t have the same friends as back then.

2. People who make you feel uncomfortable. You shouldn’t waste your time with anyone who disrespects you or makes you feel like you don’t belong. If there’s someone you’re having trouble clicking with, then you’re allowed to walk away. You’re allowed to leave them behind. You shouldn’t force yourself into situations where you feel uncomfortable, simply because you want to make other people happy. Your own happiness should come first. You should prioritize yourself, because your mental health matters.

3. People who have hurt the ones you love. You might not want to get involved. You might feel like what someone did to your loved one has nothing to do with you. However, you have a right to be angry with this person. You have a right to decide you don’t want anyone in your world who is so cruel. Even though someone might have treated you perfectly well so far, it doesn’t mean they’re a good person. It doesn’t mean you owe them anything. It doesn’t mean you should keep them around.

4. People who have changed. Maybe someone hurt you in the past — but they’re different now. They’ve changed. They’ve grown. They’ve put in the effort to turn their life around. However, that doesn’t mean you need to let them back in your life. They already screwed up. They don’t get a second chance, simply because they’re a better person now. You can be happy for them, and you can forgive them, without wanting anything to do with them.

5. People who have wildly different views than you. You shouldn’t cut out a friend or family member for having a different opinion on your favorite television show, vacation spot, or musical artist. But if they have completely different morals than you, and refuse to fight for the same things as you, the things you consider important to your core being, then there’s nothing wrong with removing them from your life in order to maintain your sanity. You should surround yourself with positive people who care about you, who love you, and who want what’s best for you. If they aren’t supportive, then screw them.

6. People who you have no interest in keeping in touch with. You don’t have to have a huge falling out with someone in order to remove them from your life. If you simply aren’t interested in talking to them, in hanging out with them, in putting effort into them, then you can leave. It doesn’t mean you hate them. It simply means they aren’t your priority. Thought Catalog Logo Mark