When You Love Someone, You Learn How To Communicate With Them

When You Love Someone, You Learn How To Communicate With Them

When you love someone, you need to learn how to communicate with them properly.

You could be on the exact same page as your person but assume they feel differently than you do. You could be reading them completely wrong. You could be creating drama where none exists. You could be freaking out over a misunderstanding. However, if you had a simple conversation, then everything could be cleared up in a heartbeat. Your problems would fade away.

When you love someone, you should feel comfortable talking to about anything. 

You shouldn’t feel the need to tiptoe around them to avoid setting them off. You should be confident that you can have a conversation with them about any topic, regardless of how intimate or awkward, and will come out as an even stronger team. You have to trust your partner to treat your feelings, your thoughts, and your opinions with a certain level of respect. You have to believe they have your best interest at heart.

When you love someone, you need to remember that the way they express themselves might not mimic the way your exes or your family members express themselves.

Your partner is their own, individual person. You need to figure out how they prefer to discuss their emotions because some people are more vocal and others are more subtle, some are more open and others are more guarded. You need to figure out what works for the two of you as a couple — and that can take some time.

When you love someone, you don’t hold back anything.

You don’t keep secrets from them. You don’t leave out certain details because it’s easier than getting into a complex, complicated issue. You are completely transparent with them. You swear to remain honest, even when it could cause a ripple in your relationship. You value your partner too much to manipulate them, to fool them. You would rather be real with them and work through whatever issues might arise.

When you love someone, you check in with them regularly.

You make sure nothing has went wrong without you realizing. You make sure they are still feeling appreciated, still feeling loved, still feeling good about where your love story is headed. Instead of assuming everything is fine, you actually ask your partner where their head is at — and if something has been wrong, you take steps to fix it. You don’t talk without taking action. You follow through on what you say.

When you love someone, you don’t distance yourself from them emotionally. You don’t put up a wall, shutting them out. You don’t allow your fears from past experiences cloud your current relationship.

You let them see every side of yourself, even the parts you like the least, the parts you try to hide from everyone else, because you know they aren’t going anywhere. You know you can trust them to stay. You know being open and honest with them is only going to push you closer together, not wrench you further apart. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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