1. You feel like he might change his tune eventually and start treating you better. Although people can change, you can’t count on it happened simply because it’s what you want to happen. If he isn’t showing any indication that he’s even interested in changing, then it probably won’t happen anytime soon. He’s probably going to keep treating you like this. You probably aren’t going to end up as a happy couple.
2. You would rather take what you’re getting than be left with nothing. You might feel like it’s better to have someone around to compliment you and kiss you every once in a while, even though they’re never going to make the relationship official, than it is to be completely alone. But in the end, only having half of his heart is going to eat away at you. It’s not going to keep you satisfied. It’s not going to make you feel any better. You need to remember you deserve everything you want, not half of a whole.
3. There aren’t any other people around who are worth your trouble. You might feel like there’s no harm in crushing on him since everyone else sucks in comparison. But just because he’s the best of your current options doesn’t mean he’s the best for you. You don’t want to settle. You don’t want to be with someone because they’re the only person around right now. You want to be with someone because they’re a great match for you, because you can’t stop thinking about them, because they’re everything you’ve ever wanted. As much as you want a relationship, it’s better to be single than to be with the wrong person.
4. You’re lonely and like the attention he gives you. There’s nothing wrong with some harmless flirting. But you know whether you are actually on the same page or whether there’s a chance you could get your heart broken by him. If you’re starting to get invested in him, even though he clearly isn’t right for you, you should put effort into learning how to enjoy your own company. Your loneliness isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can be a beautiful thing. It can give you plenty of time to blossom, to grow.
5. You can’t let go of your history. You’ve liked him for such a long time. He’s familiar to you. He’s comfortable. He’s the one you always thought you would end up dating. You can’t stop replaying your past moments together. You aren’t even giving yourself a chance to move on. You aren’t letting yourself think of a future without him in it.
6. You’re worried you won’t find anyone else interested in you. Maybe you noticed he looked at you a certain way and are worried no one else is going to look at you that way again. But they are. There are plenty of more people with potential out there. There are plenty of more chances for you to find love. You don’t have to keep chasing after the illusion of it. You don’t have to settle for him.