Almosts can be the hardest people to get over because they never give you a chance to get closure. They never have to sit you down and explain their reasons for breaking up with you because you aren’t actually a couple. So they just start dating someone else one day. Or they ghost you out of the blue. Either way, they leave you to cope with your emotions on your own. You don’t get a head’s up before your heartbreak. It hits you out of nowhere.
Almosts can be the hardest people to get over because there was so much anticipation without a lot of payoff. You kept daydreaming about what it would be like to kiss them, sleep with them, celebrate the holidays with them, fall asleep next to them — but they walked away before you had the chance to do some of those things.
The problem is, you never realize an almost is an almost at the time. In the moment, you think you’re building a relationship. You think you’re going to become an official couple soon. You have no idea they’re about to leave, which is why you’re caught so off guard when it happens.
Almosts can be the hardest people to get over because it was more than sexual. You considered them your almost because you were stuck somewhere between being friends with them and being in a relationship with them. That means you were honest to goodness friends. You got along. You had a lot in common. You made each other laugh. You trusted each other with secrets. Sure, you flirted with each other, but it was more than that. You weren’t just attracted to each other. You actually liked hanging out with each other.
Almosts can be the hardest people to get over because the what if never goes away. There’s always a part of you that wonders what would have happened if you made a move earlier or if you said something differently one day when you were hanging out. Would you be a married couple now? Would you be broken up by now? Or would you be in the same exact place you are now? It’s impossible to tell but it’s hard not to think about.
Almosts can be the hardest people to get over because after they walk away, you feel like you don’t have a right to release your emotions. You feel like you don’t have a right to complain because it’s not like you were in a relationship with them for years. You never even placed a label on what you were. You feel a little silly about how much you miss them and a little stupid for assuming they were going to stick around to date you. It’s hard to cope with your emotions because a part of you is embarrassed by them. You don’t want to admit someone meant so much to you when you clearly meant so little to them.
Almosts can be the hardest people to get over because they linger in your head and in your heart. When you lose an almost, you lose more than a relationship that could have been. You also lose a friend. You lose someone you thought would stick around. You lose someone you weren’t planning on letting go.