You might feel like you’re doing the right thing by giving your almost space and allowing them to set the pace, but patience isn’t always the answer. When it comes to relationships, you should be upfront about your feelings from the start. You don’t want to sit around waiting for someone to send a text, to like your photos, to ask you on a date, to make any kind of move.
Tell your almost you want to be official because it’s better to know how they feel than guess how they feel. If they’re on the same page as you, then admitting your feelings will allow you to start your love story early. And if you’re on completely different page, then you’ll be able to start your healing process early.
Either way, it’s better to show your vulnerable side, to speak your mind, to let your feelings be known. It’s better to have an honest conversation with them, because even though it will hurt to be told they don’t feel the same way, it will hurt even worse to chase after them for months without knowing whether you’re ever going to become an actual couple. It’s better to rip the bandage off early. It’s better to know.
Tell your almost you want to be official because you’re not happy with the way things are right now. You want more. You want something serious. You want something special. You shouldn’t be embarrassed to admit that. You shouldn’t settle for what you have now out of fear you might scare them away by speaking your truth. If they’re the right person for you, they won’t run when you tell them how much you like them. They’ll return the favor. They’ll ask you on a real date. They’ll give you everything you were hoping to find.
Tell your almost you want to be official because you don’t deserve to sit around wondering whether they care about you as much as you care about them. You don’t deserve to stare at your phone, debating whether they’re taking so long to text back because they’re trying to come up with the perfect response or because they’re out with someone else. You don’t deserve to waste your time playing games, trying to guess how they feel about you, trying to guess whether they’re going to ask you out sometime soon, trying to guess whether they’re your soulmate or another temporary soul.
Tell your almost you want to be official. Be brave. Take a risk. Escape your comfort zone. Otherwise, if you keep your feelings locked up inside, they might never piece together how you feel about them. They might assume you’d rather stay friends. They might assume you’re still stuck on your ex. They might assume you’re interested in dating someone else.
They might be too nervous to make a move, so if you don’t make one either, you might never end up together. You might be the only thing standing between you and your happily ever after.