Your forever person is supposed to be the person who helps you feel okay again, who helps bring you back to reality when your paranoia gets the best of you, who helps calm you down when you’re spiraling.
Your forever person is supposed to bring down your stress levels. They’re supposed to give you a release. They’re supposed to help you feel relaxed.
Your forever person is supposed to be someone who you look forward to seeing at the end of each day, not an added problem you have to deal with after work ends. Your forever person is supposed to enhance your days, not darken them. They’re supposed to make you feel better about yourself and your accomplishments, not worse.
Your forever person isn’t supposed to bring a bunch of drama to your life. They aren’t supposed to make your weeks more difficult than they already are because you’re already going through enough. You don’t need more to worry about. You don’t need any additional stress. You need someone who is going to help you reduce that stress, who is going to remind you everything is fine even when it doesn’t feel like it is.
Your relationship is supposed to give you a break from drama. It’s supposed to be a peaceful place where you can relax and enjoy the moment. It’s supposed to be your one constant in this crazy, unpredictable world.
Your relationship isn’t supposed to make you sick to your stomach. It’s not supposed to make you feel like the world is crashing down around you. It’s not supposed to make you feel like you’re broken.
It’s normal for couples to go through rough patches, but your whole relationship shouldn’t be a rough patch. The time you spend together shouldn’t be awkward and uncomfortable. You shouldn’t have to tiptoe around them in order to keep the peace, in order to ensure another fight doesn’t erupt in the middle of a quiet afternoon.
Your forever person is supposed to make you feel valued, loved, adored. They’re supposed to compliment you when you’re at your lowest. They’re supposed to make it clear how proud they are of you, even when you feel like you aren’t doing enough, aren’t reaching the right milestones, aren’t achieving your biggest goals.
Your forever person can’t save you. They can’t completely strip you of your stress. But they shouldn’t be adding more stress to your life. They shouldn’t be giving you extra issues to worry about every single day for the rest of your lives.
Your forever person is supposed to be your rock. They’re supposed to be the one you can vent to when you’re pissed off about something, you can cry with when you’re upset about something, you can celebrate alongside when you’re excited about something.
Your forever person isn’t supposed to make you more exhausted than you already are. They aren’t supposed to make you feel like you’re slowly going insane. They aren’t supposed to increase your stress levels. They’re supposed to lower your stress levels.