Sometimes, Soft Hearts Aren't Appreciated

Sometimes, Soft Hearts Aren’t Appreciated

Your soft heart is a beautiful thing — but not everyone is going to realize that. Some people are going to be thrown off by your authenticity. They aren’t going to know what to expect from you since you behave completely different than everyone else in the modern dating world.

Sometimes, people are going to act like you’re the one in the wrong because they don’t want to deal with their own baggage. They don’t want to stop and ask themselves why they’re so guarded, why they’re so standoffish, why they’re so afraid of commitment. Instead, they’re going to label you as clingy or crazy or overemotional. They’re going to act like there’s something wrong with you for being so deeply in touch with your emotions when really they should be learning from you. They should be picking up pointers.

Sometimes, people are going to accuse you of suffocating them. They’re going to say that you move too fast, that you love too hard, that you are just too much. You can’t let their opinion get to you. You have to accept it and move on. You have to restart your quest for love because the person you belong with isn’t someone who would fault you for having a soft heart. It’s someone who will love you for it.

Sometimes, people aren’t going to understand why you feel so deeply. They aren’t going to understand how you could spend so much time grieving a relationship that never even turned official. They aren’t going to understand how such seemingly small things could have such a large impact on you. They aren’t going to understand the way your soft heart beats.

Sometimes, the people you love the most aren’t going to appreciate everything you’ve done for them. They aren’t going to realize how much you’ve sacrificed in the name of love. They aren’t going to thank you for how much support you’ve always given them, how much effort, how much time. And that is not the way it should be. You should find someone who returns your favors, who matches your passion.

Sometimes, people are going to take advantage of your soft heart. They’re going to see how much attention you give them, see how transparent you are with them about your feelings, and they’re going to use your openness against you. They’re going to use your feelings against you. They’re going to manipulate you into sticking around with them for longer than they deserve. They’re going to say all of the right things at all of the right times because it’s easy to get forgiveness from you.

Sometimes, soft hearts aren’t appreciated. Sometimes, you’re going to feel like you’re alone in the world of modern dating, you’re going to feel like there isn’t anyone else out there as authentic as you, as committed as you, as annoyed with games as you. But you’re going to find someone who appreciates your soft heart one day. You’re going to find someone who would never use your emotions against you. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Holly is the author of Severe(d): A Creepy Poetry Collection.

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