Broken hearts are the worst for overthinkers because we have a hard time accepting what happened without knowing all of the details. We jump to the worst case scenarios, so unless you tell us the truth about what caused you to leave, we’re going to assume you were cheating. We’re going to assume you were lying about liking us from the beginning. We’re going to assume the worst possible thing that could have possibly happened to us has happened to us. We have a lot of trouble moving on without closure, without knowing exactly when and why you decided you didn’t want to date us anymore.
Broken hearts are the worst for overthinkers because our minds keep us up at night with a million different questions and memories and scenarios. We wonder what you’re doing right now, without us. We daydream about what happened the last time you were in bed with us. We fantasize about what could happen in the future between us. We aren’t able to turn our brains off, even when the things we’re thinking about are painful, even when our thoughts are only making our broken hearts ache worse.
Broken hearts are the worst for overthinkers because we assume there must have been something we were missing. We will scroll through old text messages to see whether you dropped any hints about leaving that we missed the first time around. We will look through old pictures on our phone and wonder whether your smiles were real or whether you were faking it for the camera. We will replay every memory we have of you in our heads over and over again, and we will ask friends whether they could tell the relationship was in danger. We will play detective for weeks, maybe even months after we should have started work on getting over you.
Broken hearts are the worst for overthinkers because we always end up blaming ourselves. We wonder whether we said something wrong, whether we did something wrong, whether we weren’t sexy enough or spontaneous enough or fun enough. We list out all of our insecurities and throw some new ones onto the list. Even if you clearly weren’t good enough for us, the first person we blame is ourselves. We have a hard time accepting anyone other than ourselves could be responsible for the crumbling of the relationship.
Broken hearts are the worst for overthinkers because we never give ourselves a second to rest. When we’re in pain, we have a hard time concentrating on work. We have a hard time mustering up genuine smiles. We have a hard time thinking about anything other than our heartache.
Broken hearts are the worst for overthinkers because we aren’t able to forgive and forget. We remember for such a long time. We think about our old memories for such a long time. It’s really hard for us to get over past loves because we never fully forget about them. They’re always rattling around somewhere in the back of our minds.