1. Texting. Your person should send you texts throughout the day — especially on the days when you aren’t able to spend time together. It’s a super quick, convenient way for them to remind you they’ve been thinking about you and they’ve been missing you. It seems small, but a single text could make your day.
2. Conversations. Your person should put effort into your dinner conversations. They shouldn’t let you ramble on while they drift off, thinking about something else. They should be asking you questions. They should be actively listening. They should be contributing to the conversation instead of letting you do all of the talking and nodding along.
3. Choosing music for car rides. It might not seem like a big deal when your person plays music you both enjoy instead of choosing music only they like — but small things like this let you know that your person is always taking your feelings into consideration. It lets you know they care about whether or not you are comfortable in their space, whether or not you are having a good time.
4. Compliments. Your person shouldn’t stop complimenting you as soon as the puppy love phase end. They should put just as much effort into keeping you as they put into chasing you. They should make sure you’re frequently reminded how much they love you, how much they’re attracted to you, how much they appreciate having you in their world.
5. Non-sexual touches. Your person should hold your hand. They should play with your hair. They should massage your shoulders. They should kiss your forehead. They should sprinkle little dashes of affection throughout the day — without expecting it to lead to anything sexual.
6. Marking the calendar. It sucks when you’re told about plans at the last second. Giving you a head’s up about a party you’ve both been invited to or a day when their boss needs them to work late is another way for your person to show they value and respect your time. It’s about courtesy.
7. Introducing you. When your partner brings you to a family gathering or a work event, it’s nice when you’re smoothly introduced. It’s nice when you’re made to feel important — and included.
8. Checking in on you. Sometimes a quick how are you doing means the world. Sometimes you need an opening to express your feelings. Sometimes it’s nice to know your person cares about you enough to pause whatever they’re doing to make sure you’re okay.
9 Their appearance. They don’t have to dress up, but once in a while, they should surprise you by wearing the watch you bought them or the cologne you love or the shirt you think brings out their eyes. It lets you know they’ve been paying attention to what you like.
10. Thank yous. It’s easy to take everything you do for granted, but your person should stop now and then to thank you for doing the dishes, for paying for dinner, for folding the laundry. They should make sure you realize you’re appreciated.