If you take three days to respond to a text that I sent, I am not going to answer your snaps the next time you are bored and lonely and want someone to talk to while you drift off to sleep or get drunk with your friends. I am going to ignore you the same way that you ignored me.
If you cancel plans with me at the last second, after I’ve already showered and shaved and gotten ready for you, I am not going to drop everything the next time you ask me to hang out. I am going to do something better with my time.
If you go on dates with other people and flirt with them in front of me, I am not going to purposely stay single so that I have a chance with you. I am not going to wait for you to get your act together and realize that I am the one meant for you.
If you give me a one-word answer when I open up my heart and tell you something that I wouldn’t tell just anyone, I am not going to come to you with my secrets anymore. I am going to close myself off around you.
If you flirt with me one day and then act like you couldn’t care less about me the next day, I am not going to continue chasing after you. I am going to stop pursuing you.
I am not going to send texts that probably won’t get a response. I am not going to go out of my way to see someone who only asks me over at the last second. I am not going to put effort into our relationship when you won’t do the same.
I am not going to put myself out there when I know it will only end in heartbreak. I am not going to waste my energy trying to impress you when I know that I will not get me anywhere.
I am not going to be the only one initiating conversations. I am not going to be the only one planning dates. I am not going to be the only one putting in effort. I am not going to be the only one who cares.
I am not going to continue chasing after someone who treats me like a second choice. I am not going to keep giving you my all and expect different results when it always ends the same. I am not going to give you a million chances when you haven’t done anything to earn them.
If you send me mixed signals instead of being authentic with me, then you clearly don’t mind whether we end up in a relationship or stay friends. You clearly don’t mind whether we get the chance to hang out over the weekend or spend another few days without talking. You clearly don’t care about me the way that I wish you would.
So why should I care about you?