He’s not hurting you on purpose. He’s not trying to get a rise out of you. He probably doesn’t even realize how many nights you’ve stayed up thinking about him, how many tears you’ve cried because of something he did or didn’t do. He has absolutely no idea what he’s doing to you.
But that doesn’t mean it’s okay.
For hours, you’ve been staring at your phone, wondering if he read your message yet and how much longer he’s going to take to answer you.
But he’s not trying to play hard to get. He’s not watching the clock tick by, timing how much longer he should wait until he texts you back. He’s not intentionally trying to make you suffer.
He’s already read your message and he’s forgotten about it by now. The thought of you has completely slipped his mind.
Maybe he had a good reason for ignoring you at first. Maybe he was super busy with work or got distracted by a more important text. But either way, he decided not to answer you for the entire day after that. It was his decision to snub you when he could have had a conversation with you.
I hate to break it to you, but a guy like that is not staying up late thinking about you. He is not daydreaming about what it would be like to kiss your lips. He is not planning on turning you into his official girlfriend.
If that were the case, then he wouldn’t be treating you like this. He wouldn’t be ignoring every text that you send when he has better things to do and then sending his own texts at two in the morning when he’s all alone.
There’s a reason he ignores those Instagram photos you posted and never watches your Snap stories. There’s a reason it sometimes takes him days to message you back — if he even answers at all.
He’s doing it because he doesn’t care. Because you aren’t a priority.
If he cared, then he would pay more attention. If he cared, then he would actually be present.
Unfortunately, the fact that he called you cute or flirted with you at a party or asked for your number doesn’t mean he’s serious about you. It doesn’t mean anything at all.
You know what means something? Answered texts. Kept promises. Consistent behavior.
I know you want to believe that he has strong feelings for you, because every once in a while he comes out of the woodwork and claims that he misses you, that he wants to see you, that he likes spending time with you.
But if all of that were true, he wouldn’t have disappeared in the first place. He wouldn’t have left you waiting for this long.
Yes, some people have hectic, busy lives. But if he has the time to post multiple statuses on his page per day and upload pictures of himself out drinking with other girls, but still ignores you whenever you want a two-second conversation, then you know where you stand.
You know you deserve better than a guy like him.