This Is What Happens When She Hears You Are ‘Not Ready For Anything Serious’
You're telling her that she's good enough to sleep with but that she isn't good enough to date.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, you’re telling her that you like the way that she looks but you don’t like anything else about her.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, you’re telling her that she’s good enough to sleep with but that she isn’t good enough to date.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, you’re telling her that you want her in your life temporarily but you don’t want her in your life permanently.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, you’re tampering with her self-worth. You’re fooling her into believing that she isn’t the kind of girl who deserves a relationship. That she doesn’t deserve good morning texts and hand holding and kisses in front of your friends. That she only deserves half of what she wants. Half of your time. Half of your attention. Half of your affection.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, you’re telling her that your needs matter more than her needs. That you think you deserve what you want from her, but she doesn’t deserve what she wants from you.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, you’re lowering her self-esteem. You’re making her think that there’s something wrong with her. That her body is the only thing she has to offer because her personality isn’t good enough.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious but continue to flirt with her and kiss her and hook up with her, you’re playing mind games with her. You’re fucking with her heart. You’re hurting her more than you could ever realize.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, you’re being a complete and utter asshole — because you already know what she wants and you know that she isn’t going to leave because she likes you too much. You know that you have the power to use her and instead of walking away, instead of doing the right thing and giving her the chance to find someone new, you’re deciding to take advantage of her vulnerability.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious right now, you’re giving her false hope that things could change. That in the future you might decide to make her your girlfriend. That in the future you might want her, too.
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, you aren’t making her like you any less. You’re making her like herself less. You’re making her question everything she says and does because why don’t you want to be with her officially? Why do you spend so much time with her if she isn’t enough for you? Why why why…?
When you say you aren’t ready for anything serious, but continue to booty call her because you know she won’t say no, you’re making her fall even deeper in love with you. You’re making things even worse.
You’re making it impossible for her to get over you. 
Holly Riordan is the author of
Severe(d), A Creepy Poetry Collection.
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