If He Only Talks To You Over Snapchat, He Doesn’t Want To Date You

If he really liked you, then he wouldn’t want your conversations to disappear as soon as they appeared. He wouldn’t want everything you said to vanish, so that anyone who picked up his phone would be unable to see how close you two have gotten. So that there was no record of how often he talks to you and how deep your conversations get.

If he really liked you, he would want to save all of your words to his phone, so that he could scroll through them later when he was feeling bored or lonely. He would want your name on his contact list and under his recent messages, so that he would think of you every time he picked up his phone.

If he really liked you, then he wouldn’t send you the same snaps that he adds to his story for everyone to see. He wouldn’t try to make you feel special, like you’re the only one he wants to talk to, even though it’s clear that he wants everyone to know what he’s been up to. That he wants attention from anyone who will give it, and not just you.

If he really liked you, then he would send you photographs he only wanted you to see. He would treat you differently than he treats everyone else. He would give you more information about his life than he gives the strangers who follow him back.

If he really liked you, then he wouldn’t want to have super short conversations with you through a text box that barely fits any characters.

If he really liked you, he wouldn’t send you photographs without any words attached, because he isn’t even looking for a conversation, he’s only looking for compliments.

If he really liked you, then he wouldn’t expect you to send sexy pictures in place of having an actual conversation with him. He wouldn’t repeatedly tell you how attractive you are instead of getting to know how funny and sweet and talented you are.

If he really liked you, he would want to speak to you in-depth, not in snippets. Not in five word messages and ten second long pictures.

If he really liked you, then he wouldn’t talk to you over Snapchat and only Snapchat.

He would text you, so that he could re-read your messages whenever he missed you. He would comment on your social media, so that the world could see how he felt about you.

And most importantly, he would make plans to hang out with you in person, so that you knew he was serious about you. To prove that he wanted to turn your flirtationship into an actual relationship.

If he’s only talking to you over Snapchat, an app for temporary photographs and temporary conversations, then he only views you as a temporary piece of his life. He isn’t serious about you. He only wants to have some fun with you.

Holly Riordan is the author of
Severe(d), A Creepy Poetry Collection.
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