You should stay single until you find someone who jumps into a relationship with you without any hesitations. Someone who can’t wait to call you their girlfriend, because they know you make them happier than anyone else ever could.

Stay single until you find someone who feels as strongly about you as you feel about him. Someone whose love matches yours.

You should never sit around and wait for a boy to decide whether he wants to date you or whether he would rather take a risk on one of the ten other girls he’s been flirting with over the phone. You should never wait for him to pick between you and the ex he thinks he wants to get back together with. And you should never ever wait for him to leave his current girlfriend for you.

If he’s having that much trouble deciding between you and some other girl, what makes you think his decision is going to stick? Even if he chooses you, the decision might only be temporary. He might only want you for a few weeks before changing his mind again.

And, honestly, do you really want to date someone who only likes you slightly more than another girl? Someone who has to list out your pros and cons to compare them to the other women in his life, because his heart isn’t speaking loud enough?

You should date someone whose feelings for you can’t compare to the way he feels about anyone else. Someone who chooses you every time, without even having to think about it.

You should date someone who wants you and only you.

You don’t want someone you’re afraid to fight with, because if you two start having problems, he might run off to one of his other choices. You don’t want someone you’re always self-conscious around, because you’re worried he’s going to go back to his ex again.

Find someone who sees your beauty from the beginning. Someone who looks at you and realizes that you’re the one they should be with. Someone who doesn’t have any doubts about you at all.

Don’t lower your standards and date someone who has to waste months trying to figure out whether they want you or whether they want someone else.

If he can entertain the idea of living without you, if he thinks that he might be even happier with some other girl than with you, then he isn’t the one for you.

The right one for you will know how he feels about you from the start. He won’t want to spend a day without you. He won’t want any other girls. He’ll want to dedicate himself to you. Forever.

So if some guy is expecting you to wait for him to choose between you and some other girl, walk away and make his decision for him. Walk away and find someone who actually loves you the way you were meant to be loved.

Holly Riordan is the author of
Severe(d), A Creepy Poetry Collection.
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