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You Are Strong Enough To Get Over Him

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You are strong enough to push him out of your thoughts.

You are strong enough to delete his number from your phone. Delete his pictures from your camera roll. Delete his texts and emails from your inbox.

You are strong enough to smile if you ever run into him. To walk up to him and say hello, even though all you want to do is run away or curse him out or kiss him.

You are strong enough to ignore the temptation to text him. To resist the urge to check his social media to see if he’s in a new relationship yet, to see if he changed his profile picture, to see if he seems happier without you.

You are strong enough to survive without him, even when you’re lonely, even when you’re drunk, even when you hear a joke that only he would understand and you’re dying to tell him all about it.

You are strong enough to admit that you two don’t actually belong together. That you’re better off without him. That it’s good things ended now, before they got even more serious, before you fell even harder.

You are strong enough to see the silver lining amongst the clouds. You are strong enough to stay optimistic, even when it feels like your entire world is falling apart.

And you are strong enough to realize all of the crying you’ve been doing doesn’t mean you’re weak. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure, that you’re vulnerable and pathetic.

In fact, you should keep crying. Keep listening to his favorite songs. Keep cursing him out to your friends. Keep writing nasty diary entries about how he’s such an asshole.

Keep thinking about him until you find the strength to move on. Until you can finally say I’ve had enough, I’m sick of wasting tears on him, this isn’t the way I should live. 

You are strong enough to let yourself feel the pain, feel the disappointment, feel the betrayal — and then pick up your shattered pieces and shove them back together.

You are strong enough to wipe away the tears, throw out your used tissues, and wash the idea of him off of your body.

You are strong enough to experience loss and come out as a better person. A wiser person. A person who appreciates their memories, but accepts that they’re a thing of the past.

You are strong enough to see that you deserve better. You deserve someone who tells you the truth, who keeps his promises, who randomly stops by your house because he couldn’t wait any longer to kiss you again.

You are strong enough to ignore the temptation to jump straight into a new relationship. You are strong enough to wait for someone better to come along. Someone who treats you right. Someone who won’t make the same mistakes your ex made.

You are strong enough to live without him. You are strong enough to survive this heartache. TC mark

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