This Is The Real Reason She Ended Up In A Toxic Relationship

She gives out second chances. She sees the best in people. She refuses to quit.

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She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she fell for him before she got to know the real him. She knew the person that he was pretending to be — the smart, sweet, kind boy that treated her with respect. The boy that made her feel like she was walking on air.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because by the time she found out the truth about him, she was already hooked. She had already latched onto the idea of dating him. She couldn’t stop her feelings from swarming through her chest, no matter how dangerous they felt. She was powerless.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she let herself think positive. She thought that she could find a way to make things work. She thought that she could help fix him, change him. That his love for her would convince him to become a better man.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she didn’t want to give up hope. She was willing to put in the effort to compromise, to talk, to plan. She didn’t care how much screaming and fighting and crying it took. She was willing to stay with him until they figured everything out.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she rationalized every move that he made. She tried to step into his shoes and see the world through his eyes. She tried to paint him in a positive light, even when he filled her world with so much darkness.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she let her feelings overpower her common sense. She ignored her friends when they told her to dump him. She ignored the gut feelings that were eating apart her stomach. She refused to see the red flags waving in front of her face.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she doesn’t have a mean bone in her body. She never knew that someone could be so manipulative, malicious. She had no idea how much pain another person could cause.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she didn’t realize that’s what it was. She thought she had found a boy that would give her everything that she wanted. She assumed that love was on the horizon.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because it was hard for her to understand how someone could make her so happy one day and so miserable the next. Some days were good. Some days were filled with kisses and laughter and inside jokes. Some days it really felt right.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she believed his apologies. She believed he was trying hard to change. She believed all of his lies.

She ended up in a toxic relationship, because she gives out second chances. She sees the best in people. She refuses to quit.

But now that she’s been through the pain and survived it, she won’t end up in a toxic relationship ever again. Because now she knows the signs. And now she knows to run. Thought Catalog Logo Mark