Aries: March 21st – April 19th

As an Aries, you’re impulsive. You don’t think things through before you lean in for a kiss or send your crush a flirty text littered with eggplant emojis. You do what feels right in the moment without thinking too far into the future. That’s why you always end up involved with guys who can show you a good time on Saturday nights, but won’t stick around for Sunday mornings. You’re drawn to men who aren’t looking for anything serious, because they’re exciting, and you love to have fun. But if you want something real, you have to start thinking before you act. Get to know him before you fall hard for him.

Taurus: April 20th – May 20th

You aren’t the type to develop temporary crushes. Once you start liking someone, you’re going to like them for years. It doesn’t matter what they do to you or how horribly they treat you. You’re still going to find ways to convince yourself that they’re right for you. If you want something real, then you’re going to have to let go of the idea that every semi-decent guy you meet is the guy you’re meant to marry. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so keep your options open.

Gemini: May 21st – June 20th

You’re a social butterfly, so you’re always meeting new people that could potentially become your boyfriend. The problem is, not everyone you meet is going to be compatible with you. If you want something real, you should try dating someone you meet at your favorite band’s concert or at your typical hangout spot instead of going out with random guys you run into at crappy bars you were dragged to. Opposites attract, but you don’t want someone too different from you.

Cancer: June 21st – July 22nd

You’re a sucker for love at first sight and you love scrolling through #relationshipgoals on social media. You want that fairy tale life so badly that you’ve been pushing yourself to fall for a guy–any guy. You don’t actually like him. You just tell yourself that you do. Basically, you love the idea of love more than you actually love him. So if you want something real, you’re going to have to be patient. Wait for someone worthwhile to come along instead of settling for some random guy and trying to turn him into the boyfriend you want him to be.

Leo: July 23rd – August 22nd

You know you could get any guy you want. That’s why you usually go after the most attractive man in the room. But as you’ve probably learned, hot men aren’t always the nicest men. Sometimes, the unassuming, ordinary looking guys are the ones that are best for you. So if you want something real, you should try approaching men you’d usually stay away from. Give the underdogs a chance.

Virgo: August 23rd – September 22nd

To put it bluntly, you think too much. You’re looking for the perfect on-paper man, but that’s not who you’re going to work well with. Love is illogical. It makes zero sense. Once you find someone you have chemistry with, you can’t let yourself overthink things. Just enjoy your time with him, without worrying about how compatible you’d be on paper. Sometimes, the best relationships are the ones that no one can fully understand.

Libra: September 23rd – October 22nd

You don’t give yourself enough credit. Just because you’re a little bit quiet and shy doesn’t mean you’re not a catch. You are. That’s why you should stop settling for the first guy who comes along and asks you out. It’s okay to be picky. And it’s okay to be pissed and initiate a breakup after a guy treats you poorly. You don’t have to be so understanding. Don’t let others push you around anymore.

Scorpio: October 23rd – November 21st

Deep down, you don’t think you deserve happiness. That’s why you’re always going after the wrong person. You might not think you’re doing it purposely, but a part of you is going after assholes, because you want things to end. You want to get hurt again. So if you want something real, you have to take a step back from relationships for a while, until you realize that you deserve to be loved. You deserve to be happy.

Sagittarius: November 22nd – December 21st

You’re an optimist, which is normally a good thing. However, when it comes to dating, you tend to look at things in a dangerous way. Instead of breaking up with a guy who treats you poorly, you think that you can find a way to work things out. Instead of giving up on a guy who turns you down, you think you can change his mind. But if you want something real, you have to stop focusing on fixing things that are irreparably broken and start finding things that are flawless in the first place.

Capricorn: December 22nd – January 19th

You don’t want dating to get in the way of the rest of your life. That’s why you’ll go after men who are independent, who don’t need you in their life in order to feel complete. Men who can go days without talking to you, so you’ll still have time to see your friends and work overtime. But the thing is, it’s possible to make time for a boyfriend and friends and a job. You’ll just have to tweak your routine a bit. So if you want something real, you should stop trying to find someone who won’t change your life. Change is actually a good thing.

Aquarius: January 20th – February 18th

You’re creative, so you need pain in order to fuel your writing and painting. You don’t mind getting heartbroken, because you feel like it’s an essential part of life, and that’s the problem. If you want something real, you have to remind yourself that there’s more to life than suffering. You aren’t destined to be sad. You deserve happiness. If you want something real, you have to be open to genuine, love-filled relationships instead of jumping into depressing, artsy ones just for the story.

Pisces: February 19th – March 20th

You want the person you date to be your boyfriend and your best friend, which is why you usually try to form relationships with men you’re already close to. As you know, that’s not always a good idea. If you’re friends first, then you might end up getting pushed to the side. Your crush will tell you all about the other girls he likes and end up dating someone else, and then you’ll be crushed. So if you want to find something real, you should develop a romantic relationship first and let the friendship build over time. Some of your guy friends are just meant to stay friends.