I Asked Each Personality Type To Open Up About Their Sexuality - Here's What They Had To Say

I Asked Each Personality Type To Open Up About Their Sexuality – Here’s What They Had To Say


ENTJs And Sexual Orientation

Of the 64 participants sampled:

70% identified as heterosexual
20% identified as bisexual or pansexual
5% identified as homosexual
2% identified as asexual
3% identified as ‘other.’

ENTJs And Sex Drive

When asked to rate their sex drive on a scale of one to ten, the mean ranking was 7.02.

ENTJs And Hookup Culture

When asked how they felt about “hookup culture:”

37% of participants selected “I dislike it and rarely/never engage in it.”
60% of participants selected “I like some aspects of it but dislike other ones.”
3% of participants selected “I love it and almost exclusively look for casual hookups”

ENTJ Commentary:

1. “I am adventurous, I like regularly scheduled sexual intercourse, and I’ll like learning about why our bodies behave the way they do during sex and how to improve the experience as a result.”

2. “I think being an ENTJ has made me more gregarious about sex and has given me plenty of self-esteem to go get plenty of sex with new people whenever I wanted before I married. I think it made me very practical about meeting my physical/hormonal needs and not buying into sexist thought, as a woman.”

3. “As a female ENTJ, I’m aggressive and domineering. Not surprised that I’m a bisexual.”

4. “As a ENTJ I’m always in a position of leadership or wanting to be in control of my life, in bed I find it relaxing (and awesome) to be the opposite and have someone else be in control, although it is hard to find partners that are willing to be dominant in bed and maybe more submissive in the other aspects of the relationship.”

5. “I am not hesitant about trying new things with someone I trust…and if I can be in control (the choices are mine to make). I can tell within a few minutes if I’ll like it or not. I also want time to research (literature or video) so I know what to expect.”

6. “The relationship between my type and my sexuality is complicated. Being an assertive, dominant woman who is also a femme lesbian makes me a weird sort of partner, and makes finding a significant other very hard. Women who date women tend to be radical idealists, which I find annoying. I have yet to find a person I would date, because honestly, I’m a lesbian who can’t stand most lesbians my age.”

7. “Directness is knowing what I like and want. I’m very happy to try almost anything once but if I don’t like it then you won’t find me doing it again. My personality has made me try to ignore feelings related to sex for a long time – but now I recognize that feelings are always involved in sex for me and that’s ok, it’s not all physical.”

8. “I am very loyal and private with this area of my life. Only a select few have ever made the cut and there was longevity involved as part of the selection criteria.”

9. “I often check in with myself to ensure that I’m sexually satisfied; I easily communicate my desires, and I expect my partner to do the same.”

10. “I think as a female ENTJ/8, guys aren’t as surprised when I’m more aggressive. Honestly, I think personality leads to guys assuming I’m going to be pretty forward sexually. That’s not wrong.”

11. “Being and entj as well as 3w2 with an sx/so variant has influenced my sexual experience because I don’t want to waste my time with countless partners(entj) because I have a desire for true intimacy and companionship, not just sexual pleasure(sx). Although I do have a very high libido, I am the master of my life, I refused to be mastered by anything(type 3).”

12. “I don’t think my MBTI type informs my sexual orientation much, but I believe it has a lot to do with exploring new things in the bedroom as well as always trying to achieve my ultimate goal: my partner’s pleasure. Hold nothing back.”

13. “As a planner and a sexual dominant my type probably plays a key role in my sexuality since I am expected to manage and direct the experience.”

14. “I think ENTJs tend to have really high ambitions (usually career wise) and sometimes romance/meaningless sex isn’t on our agenda.”

15. “I think I’m very confident in myself and that allows me to be open and comfortable, especially in terms of communication. However, because I have a very dominant personality in public, I do prefer someone slightly more dominant as a partner that can challenge me and take over that position. I am not a submissive all the time in bed, but I do enjoy being so often when the time arises. In addition, I have always seen myself as straight but just unusually open to experiences and led myself to believe that until recently. With a recent experience, I realize that I still have a greater attraction to the opposite sex, but my attraction to the same sex isn’t incidental, which made me realize that identify as more bisexual.”

16. “My partner needs to be engaging/fun/active or I won’t have sexual interest regardless of how beautiful she may be physically.”

17. “I think being an ENTJ makes me more confident in bed, but I like to know ahead of time that we’ll be having sex. I’m not spontaneous about sex, to the point my husband (an ISFP) and I schedule it on our calendar!”

18. “I’m usually quite dominating but in bed I can give control to the other person a lot more easily than in other situations. In other situations I like to focus on what I’ll get from the situation, but in bed I focus fully on my partner. If she’s enjoying it, I enjoy it. Sex is about constant exploring and finding new ways to please your partner and getting better at it.”TC mark

Jump To:

Rationals: ENTP / INTP / ENTJ / INTJ
Artisans: ESTP / ISTP / ESFP / ISFP
Guardians: ESTJ / ISTJ / ESFJ / ISFJ
Idealists: ENFP / INFP / ENFJ / INFJ


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