I Asked Each Personality Type To Open Up About Their Sexuality - Here's What They Had To Say

I Asked Each Personality Type To Open Up About Their Sexuality – Here’s What They Had To Say


Unfortunately, we did not receive enough ISFP responses to deem any of the survey results significant.

ISFPs And Sexual Orientation

Of the 39 participants sampled:

90% identified as heterosexual
5% identified as bisexual or pansexual
2% identified as assexual
3% identified as other

ISFPs And Sex Drive

When asked to rate their sex drive on a scale of one to ten, the mean ranking was 6.21.

ISFPs And Hookup Culture

When asked how they felt about “hookup culture:”

58% of participants selected “I dislike it and rarely/never engage in it.”
40% of participants selected “I like some aspects of it but dislike other ones.”
2% of participants selected “I love it and almost exclusively look for casual hookups”

ISFP Commentary

1. “As an ISFP, there is such total appreciation of the senses when it comes to sex. And it also allows for a deep emotional connection without using a lot of words. I was married to an ISTP, and my sex drive was considerably lower with him. His lack of emotion and inability to express his feelings caused me to shut down. When I am with someone I connect with, I crave it constantly.”

2. “I am a very sensitive person. Whether I want to or not, I bond quickly with my sexual partners, and then tend to scare them away because I ‘come on too strong.’ I am a very passionate person- I either feel something 110% or not at all. That said, I frequently deal with disappointment and heartbreak.”

3. “Unlike most SP types I haven’t been sexual with multiple people. The few times I have, its been a way to express and share my strong Fi feelings towards them using my Se.”

4. “I think being an ISFP has a positive role in my sexuality. I am in tune with my partner (when I have one).”

5. “All of my long term relationships have been heterosexual, excluding some experimentation with friends of the same gender, but I put myself as bi/pansexual not only because of those instances but because I appreciate attractive people of all gender identities. ISFPs are frequently noted for their love of aesthetically pleasing things and in this respect I stay very true to that, to the point where I find it very confusing when I encounter people who deny having the ability to simply appreciate an attractive person based on their gender/presentation/etc.

In addition, my relationships have almost always been surprisingly long term, but I don’t actually mind being single and I go between relationships for quite extended periods of time too, at least historically. I very much find the idea of open relationships to be appealing because I’m all about new experiences (which I attribute to my being an SP). However I would likely spend months attempting to find the right time/words for bringing this up with my primary partner. Also historically I am attracted to a lot of ENTPs and INTJs (and on the flip side of that, I think a lot of INTJs find me appealing for whatever reason, where with ENTPs I usually have to work a little bit to get their attention so it’s a wonder I ended up with my current ENTP boyfriend :P). I think the reason is I often have a hard time coming up with things to say, so I often end up being the listener, and if you want interesting subject material to listen to, an ENTP or INTJ rarely disappoints.”

6. “I am definitely a people-pleaser, and I’m would rather show someone how I feel about them rather than just tell them.”

7. “I feel a lot. I need to experience what is happening. I need to feel like the other person wants to be there and is into it just as much as I am.”

8. “While I absolutely feel tuned into the ‘earthy and sensual’ description of Se-users, for me this doesn’t necessarily mean sexually. Sensuality in a bigger umbrella, and yes, playing with the senses by setting the right mood with lighting, music, smells, etc, REALLY helps, but I think sensuality doesn’t require sex to be expressed.”

9. “I develop very deep intimate connections with people. But, it’s an emotion connection, not so much sexual.”

10. “As an ISFP I am very sensual and attentive. I’m also good at taking the lead or giving the lead away. I feel that’s because of the flexible open mindedness of the ISFP with Se.”

11. “My ISFP self is hugely motivated by sensory experiences — if it looks good, feels good, tastes good, sounds good – I want it. So sensuality is high on the list of things that give my personality all the good juice.”

12. “I’m very open minded and I want/need to feel connected to at least one person with my body and my soul.”

13. “I guess I’m an oxytocin addict. As a big feeler, there’s something about sexual expression that seems like the most pure form of bonding. My personality type sometimes struggles with verbal expression, but never sexually. I think I tend to communicate best with my body.”

14. “I prefer sex to be a very intimate experience. The feeling of closeness to my partner is arousing to me. I think I must be a very strong ‘F.'”

15. “I need to use all my senses: seeing my partner, hearing (panting, groaning and such – but dirty talk is pretty much a no go), tasting and smelling him, feel his body against mine and his hands touching me. That’s definately why phone or Skype sex does absolutely nothing for me.”

16. “I have a confidence and assertion in the bedroom that I rarely exhibit in other areas of life. I think my Extroverted Sensing makes me be in the moment and enjoy all the physical sensations, but is always most passionately indulged in when driven by my strong inner emotions and loyalties (my Introverted Feeling).”TC mark

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Rationals: ENTP / INTP / ENTJ / INTJ
Artisans: ESTP / ISTP / ESFP / ISFP
Guardians: ESTJ / ISTJ / ESFJ / ISFJ
Idealists: ENFP / INFP / ENFJ / INFJ


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