INTJs displayed a strong preference for quality time as a love language, with acts of service ranking as their second preferred method of giving and receiving love.
INTJs are often reluctant to express their affection for others overtly, but that doesn’t mean they are not constantly expressing it subtly. For the INTJ, time is a commodity and if they are spending it on you, it is a surefire sign that you matter to them.
To love an INTJ, carve out time in your own schedule specifically to spend around them – taking particular care to learn about the topics they’re interested in. This type craves deep intellectual connections with others, which require time and patience to form. Be patient with the INTJ – it may take them a while to open up to you emotionally, but in the meantime they’ll appreciate the time and effort you’re dedicating to the relationship.
This type also appreciates the occasional errand or chore being run on their behalf – they show their love through acts of devotion and appreciate you reciprocating in kind. Once you grow close to an INTJ, don’t be afraid to initiate physical displays of affection with them while you are alone – they may not initiate these themselves but it doesn’t mean they don’t want or crave them. Additionally, don’t shy away from telling the INTJ that you love and appreciate them! With almost 15% of INTJs ranking “Words Of Affirmation” as their chosen love language, there’s a chance it may be exactly what they need to hear.
To receive love from an INTJ, notice the little things they are doing for you on a regular basis. If they are regularly setting time aside to relish in your presence, that’s their way of implying that your company is valuable to them. This type is also prone to going out of their way to make sure you are happy and taken care of – whether that means running an errand for on a day when you’re busy or cooking you breakfast in the morning, appreciate these small acts of service – they’re the INTJ’s way of saying ‘I love you‘ when they don’t feel comfortable saying it explicitly!