11 Things Girls Say When They Cancel Your Date, And What They Really Mean

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This one is for the boys: It is not easy for ladies to turn down a man. I am sorry to tell you this gentlemen, but at one point in your life, a female has used one or more of these lines below to gently say, “There are other fish in the sea and sorry sir, you are not my Nemo!” Most of the time it works, but other times fellas, you just do not get the subtle hint that she is not interested.

Same rule applies for the ladies as it does with men, if she wanted to date you, she would make it known. Women are very forward with their feelings; It is pretty obvious when a girl is into you or NOT into you. Men think that women talk in a code that is impossible to decipher, but in reality, she has putting her feelings on the table right in front of you and you are too busy watching Sports Center and scratching your ass to see it.

Now would be the time to grab a beer and brace yourself gentlemen, this could get a little brutal. If she has used one or more of these excuses on you, take a moment and realize, she is just not that into you.


1. “I am too busy for a boyfriend right now.”

Meaning: She is too busy dreaming up her Nicholas Sparks novel love life and you are not her Ryan Gosling. Women are never too busy for the things that they like to do and it seems as though you are not one of those things she does not want to do. If a woman is not taking the time to see/talk to you, she is just not that into you.

2. “I need to take some time to find myself.”

Meaning: I need to take some time to find a guy who isn’t you. Used most often, this line is the nicest way to say that you just aren’t doing it for her. No amount of time is really going to change that, but she is hoping that amount of time will help your penis to forget she existed, so that you could move on with your life without her in it.

3. “I am seeing someone.”

Meaning: She has a type of man she is looking for and she is not seeing it in you. When a girl likes a guy, she is available.

Example: “I have gone on a few dates, but nothing serious”. If she flat out says she has a boyfriend and you have creeped her social media well enough to know that there is no mention of Donald Nesley, take that as a note that she was being nice and would not like you to be her boyfriend. Also, read a book called Harry Potter. You will notice a similar character name to her “boyfriend”.

4. “I just got out of something serious and am not ready for any type of commitment.”

Meaning: She just got out of a relationship and would like to go sleep around with anything that walks, but you are not included in her bedroom fun. This type of girl would like to go out, have fun and not have to worry about what his name is in the morning or where she may have left her pants. Unless she is texting you after 2 am, it is easy to say she is not ready to commit to doing the “sideways tango” with only you.

5. “I can’t go out tonight – I have to wash my hair.”

Meaning: I have taken off my bra for the night and it is not going back on. Face it, Channing Tatum might be the only man that is worth putting the bra back on for and a majority of the female population would leave it off for him anyways. I know this is going to sound like an odd one gentlemen, but if she isn’t willing to put her bra back on to see you, she just isn’t that into you.

6. “You can do so much better than me.”

Meaning: I can do so much better than you. Yes, you will come back with all the good qualities about her and that will give her an ego boost for about 2.5 seconds, before she has to use another line from this list to turn you down. My friend, believe me when I say she is blowing you off, so just let it go and move on to the next bad choice.

7. “I don’t think we are heading in the same direction.”

Meaning: She doesn’t want to financially provide for you for the rest of your life while you work at Chuckie Cheese and you are blowing all of yours and her money on flaming Dr. Peppers and strippers. This is her nice way of saying I don’t see a future with you, so what is the point in dating you now.

8. “I am into girls.”

Meaning: She would never date a girl, but she would prefer a girl over you. That is kind of a harsh one, but maybe she is hoping that it will be slightly easier on your ego when you go home with blue balls.

9. “I have to cancel tonight – Something suddenly came up.”

Meaning: You were my excuse to get a free meal and a night away from my house full of cats, but I just got a better date offer from the guy at the gym who bench presses 300 pounds, so sorry bye. We have seen it in many movies, the easiest excuse in the book. If a girl really likes you, she is not going to cancel on you last minute unless she has Ebola or has the opportunity to meet a member of the Backstreet Boys.

10. “I am just going to avoid /ignore.”

Meaning: I hope to God this will make him realize I do NOT want to take to him. This is NOT playing hard to get; This is the final straw where she has done everything in her power to nicely let you down and you haven’t gotten it. When this happens, do not fight her on this and say that she is a “bitch”. All of the above has nicely been done to let you down, but you have failed to notice.

Example: When you have brought up to her multiple times that you would like to take her out and she has avoided giving you an answer – This is her nice way of hoping you get a sudden case of amnesia, a gorilla steals your phone and that she gets recruited to a job the middle of Africa where you can no longer contact her ever again.

11. “No thank you, I do not want to go out with you.”

Meaning: SHE DOESN’T WANT TO GO OUT WITH YOU. Again, not playing hard to get, she just isn’t that into you. That will not change. It isn’t going to happen. Stop trying. Pull up Google, locate a hotline number and chat with some girl who would love to cater to you for the cheap rate of $29.95 an hour. It is time and money well spent, seeing that you are currently wasting your time, money, energy and sexual frustration on girl who just doesn’t want to be with you. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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