How To Let Go Of Unhealthy Relationships By Cutting Out Your Fear-Based Cords

Allef Vinicius

Have you ever met someone and felt very uncomfortable around them, or attracted to them, for no apparent reason? You might have read intuitively and unconsciously their energy field.

Each time we send out a thought to a person or to an object, we send out a little energy impulse which forms a cord.

These thoughts combined with emotions and desires form a chain of attachments, running from our chakras to the objects of attraction.

The same happens when someone thinks about us or has feelings for us. We usually form stronger energetic bonds with people who are close to us or with material objects which are very dear to our heart.

If we hold on tightly to a person or to an object or a situation, the cords become stronger and more intense.  This is often the case when our emotions get stirred up, or energies such as envy, anger, hatred, blame, judgment, jealousy or greed build up.

People who are able to see those energetic cords, describe them as dark, often black and they can keep us attached to certain people or situations and influence us in an unhealthy way. Those attachments can be either emotional, psychological, spiritual, mental or sexual. It is very likely that we have an energy cord with our siblings, friends, parents, partner, boss, co-workers, clients, and someone we are currently in conflict with! Etheric cords can form between people, objects of desire, institutions, organizations and situations.

Any fear-based cords are always unhealthy and will drain our energy. As a result, we might experience physical pain or feel tired without any apparent reason.

Many cultures, for example, carry out a symbolic ceremony to release the teenager to adulthood, which is not done in the West. However, it can be helpful to cut those ties so that the child can be free and independent and responsible for himself.

Especially for sensitive people, this process can be very helpful because certain energetic cords can make them feel very vulnerable, drain their energy or prevent them from moving forward. It is important to be aware that it is only the limiting or more negative aspects which will be released in a cord balancing process, so you can also do it with a current partner.

Couples in long-term relationships often form strong cords, especially if the relationship is dysfunctional.  It is not surprising therefore how powerful those cords can become if we imagine the angry web of thoughts of an arguing couple. Once those cords are released, they are often able to release any anger or resentment, heal the relationship or separate amicably. 

Many people experience a tremendous sense of freedom, clarity or peace of mind when the unwanted baggage falls away after a cord-cutting process. Both negative and positive cords can be formed again if we continue to send the same thoughts towards someone or something.

Cord Cutting with Archangel Michael

It is important to retreat into your own space before you do the cord-cutting process and it is best done when you are well rested and relaxed.

Visualize yourself enveloped in a cocoon of white light and set the intention to release any negative cords, knowing that this will be for the highest good of all involved. Sit in a chair, or a cushion with a straight back or lay comfortably in bed.

  1. Now visualize the cord that you want to release.
  2. Feel and sense into it and examine how this etheric cord is affecting your energy field.
  3. This is a good time to express your feelings, or maybe forgiveness or acceptance is required at this stage.
  4. In which area are you giving away your power (you are always giving away your power when you think obsessively about another person, or if their behavior is affecting your peace of mind)?
  5. Are you giving or receiving energy from the other person?
  6. How does this affect the relationship/s and your everyday life?
  7. The next step is to let go of any fear-based cords and attachments.

Call on Archangel Michael to cut the cords between you and the other person or object.

Ask that he permanently cuts the cords and releases all of its effects, releasing the negative energy flow between you and the other person, object or situation. Ask him to cut the cords that are draining your energy and vitality.

Do it with as much unconditional love as possible or at least remain neutral and objective. Visualize Archangel Michael’s powerful sword of light permanently cutting the cord.

Feel, sense or see the release of the energetic cord of attachment. Know that the cord is now permanently released and that all effects of it have been released from all time frames and dimensions, leaving only the unconditional love between you and the other person, object or situation.

At this point, you may feel a sense of release or a sense of peace and clarity or sadness and loss or a mixture of feelings. The people involved will think about you at the moment the cord is being cut even if they won’t understand why. 

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Erika is a natural empath, a fully qualified Spiritual Counsellor, Holistic Healing Practitioner, Soul Plan Practitioner and Life Coach.

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