1. You are not going to get any younger.
Think about you. You are never going to be younger than you are right now. At this very moment in time, you are getting older. And doesn’t everyone always say that the time to be carefree and wild is while you are young?
2. People will support you.
Whether you want to believe it or not, your girlfriends always have your back. They may seem a little hesitant on the guy of your choosing or a little iffy on the idea of your feelings, but once you make up your mind – they WILL support you. Because they love you. And they want you to be happy.
3. Whether good or bad, he deserves to know.
If you are trying to tell him something bad: He deserves to know.
If you are trying to tell him something good: He deserves to know.
You can’t keep leading him on, you can’t keep him in a relationship that is hurting you, and you DEFINITELY can’t use him. But if it’s good, hey, maybe he feels the same way too. You’ll never know until you try!
4. He might not feel the same way.
If you tell him how you genuinely feel about him, he might not reciprocate those feelings. Which sucks. But in the long run – it is a darn good thing you found out. That way you can begin the mourning process (denial…regret…then go out and buy yourself a Kate Spade accessory and say “Fuck it, I’m too fabulous for him anyway!”)
5. It might explain why you’ve been acting so weirdly around him lately.
Been sending him an unusually large amount of “what are you up to tonight?” texts? How about the “oops wrong person!” (when you both know in fact you purposefully sent him that message in hopes of starting a conversation). How about the fact that you suddenly are dressing differently and walking different routes around campus in hopes of running into him? He might be receiving the clues but not comprehending them. Telling him how you feel could fix all of that.
6. He will probably respect you for it.
I cannot think of a single instance in which a guy has responded negatively to a girls interest in him. Let’s face it – they are all about themselves. They think that they are the center of the universe (and who knows, maybe you think he is the center of the universe, too). The respect comes from a deeper level though. They know how hard it is to “man-up” and tell someone how you feel. So they will understand that what you just went through was NOT easy by any standards. And even if your feelings aren’t matched, they know you meant them.
7. What is the worst that could happen?
He says no. He laughs in your face. If you were too timid to do it in person; suddenly getting texts from him makes your stomach turn – and not in the good way. He could say that he was giving you all sorts of clues implying he was not in fact into you like you suspected (which of course totally did not happen). In this scenario, like in number 4, you go buy yourself a Kate Spade accessory, bitch to your galpals about how awful he is, and then you move on. Cliché as it sounds, there are plenty of fish in the sea. And I’m sure you’ll find one that is cuter and much less of a douche.
8. Screen Shots are TOTALLY a thing nowadays.
Which could work for you or against you. If you’re a total biotch to him, he could easily share that information to his friends. Post it in a secret FB group (those things are evil I tell you) and they can all laugh. But if you are the sweetheart that you claim to be, then he has nothing worth sharing. If he shares that information with his friends, he’s just going to look like an asshole and probably end up regretting 1) sharing your private conversations; and 2) turning you down in the first place. Also these make it way easier to share every detail about your life with your future maid-of-honor (You have to share, right? He could be Prince Charming and she could DEFINITELY reference this moment in her toast)
9. His friends definitely respect you — if he decides to share.
Guy friends are totally into that whole, “hot chick digs my friend” kind of thing. And trust me, you. are. one. hot. female. And do not ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Maybe you will even make another friend or two out of this situation. They may be completely supportive and help you get what you want. And those are the friends that stick through it all. Even if “Prince Charming” does not end up working out.
10. WHY THE HECK NOT?
You are beautiful. You like him. If he doesn’t reciprocate, his. freaking. loss. And then you can both move on with your lives. If he does reciprocate, you have a budding romance on your hands and there is nothing more beautiful than that. Plus you have yourself to thank for it and that makes it all the more worth it.