Dr. Margaret Paul

Of course it’s always “okay” to call it quits if that is what you want. No one can tell you whether or not it’s right for you. But – and this is a big ‘but’ – you might want to do your own healing before ending the relationship.

It’s amazing how quickly love vanishes when one or both partners have the intent to control.

If one or both people in a relationship are closed to learning about themselves and each other, the relationship will not heal.

It’s too easy to leave, too easy to blame the other person, too easy to miss the incredible opportunity that relationships provide for healing and growth.

The challenging truth is that we cannot connect with another until we connect with ourselves.

It’s vitally important to be honest with yourself so that you don’t end up feeling like a victim, and so that you have less of a chance of repeating this in a future relationship.

As soon as someone wants something from him, his terror of losing himself is activated and he automatically resists.

Love is kept alive when each person is more devoted to learning about being loving to themselves and to each other than to getting love.

When you fall in love as a loving adult, instead of as a wounded, needy child or adolescent, your need for the relationship is totally different.

Even if one person in a partnership does their inner work, the entire system can change. So if your partner is not interested, don’t let that stop you from learning to love yourself!

There needs to be a basic spark of attraction. If you do not feel physically attracted to this person within the first six months of the relationship, the chances are this attraction will not develop.

Relationships flourish when both people treat each other with kindness. While there are no guarantees, often treating another with kindness brings kindness in return.