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22 Cheaters Explain “What Drove Me To Cheat”

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Alex Dram
Alex Dram

Everything is fine… except we don’t have sex

Well I haven’t done it yet. I think I probably would given the opportunity though. Basically we’ve stopped having sex. We’ve talked about it a lot and there doesn’t seem to be any resolution in sight. It’s pretty rough cause nothing else is really wrong. I think if I asked for an open relationship that would just end it (she’s rather conservative in this regard). I think staying with her is better for our child and honestly there’s nothing wrong other than the sex so it’s not like we’re fighting in front of the kid all the time or anything. I’m hoping to think of a better solution but reaching the end of my patience

Because I’m a sociopath

Because I’m probably a sociopath. It’s tough for me to stay interested after a few months. I have never started a relationship with someone because I was genuinely interested in them. There was always a need I wanted fulfilled at the time and they fit the bill. It was either I wanted sex regularly, or not to go on vacation by myself or spend Christmas alone, but never because the girl and I had something in common or she was interesting. After a while the person would assume that that we were a couple and because I liked the sex or companionship I’d just let it ride out.

Lesson learned

Because I thought I was bored. Because I thought there might be something better. Because I thought I could get away with it.

Wrong, wrong, and seriously fucking wrong.

She had sexual issues

I cheated cause I was really horny, I really loved my girlfriend at the time, but she had sexual issues and I had sexual needs.

Selfish? Yeah, probably. The funny part is she found out and didn’t really care, she actually didn’t mind because she couldn’t fulfill my needs in that area but we fulfilled every other of each other’s needs. So she said go ahead, but be safe and don’t let her know about it.

I only felt guilty after we had that talk. So I never did it again.

I was addicted to drama

My ex and I used to cheat on each other like it was a game. He was physically and mentally abusive and I was young, immature, and mesmerized by an older man. We had what I call the 3 Fs, fighting, fucking, and fun and that’s ALL we did. Super awesome highs and god awful lows with lots of sex in between. After he cheated on me the first time I cheated on him. Then we’d break up, get back together and repeat the cycle. It was like we were addicted to each and the drama. I had sex with more guys when I was with him then I did the entire time I’ve been single.


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