A down comforter and/or sheet set
A comfortable bed soothes all stressors. It’s really amazing how much easier you can fall asleep on new, crisp sheets, how much more fun laying in bed reading on a Sunday morning is when you’re wrapped in a perfect weight down comforter, or even the added sex appeal of a woman who feels confident because of her “I’m A Real Adult” bedroom set.
It’s a gift that feels decadent, and one your GF will use every day, all year.
Approximately one million vanilla candles
I love burning candles. I realize that they are becoming a cat lady type thing, but I get stressed out easily and a good candles/dim lighting combo is instantly calming. Plus, I write a lot at night and doing it in the dark with candles helps me get into a creative vibe. I prefer plain-ish earth scents but I’m not picky. As long as it’s not a sugar scent (like “frosting”–barf) I’m happy– although Diptyque candles never hurt.
At the risk of “doing feminism wrong” I really adore the Coco Chanel quote “A woman who doesn’t wear perfume has no future” because for me, at least, perfume is representative of self love and self care. I wear perfume every day, even though I don’t always leave my apartment. It makes me feel feminine and desirable, which is always a beneficial state of mind.
I’m currently crushing on Dolce & Gabbana’s Desire. Other scents that are pretty safe bets among women are Chanel’s Coco Mademoiselle, Chloé Eau de Parfum, Armani Code (or the preppier version, my high school scent, Emporio Armani)
I love these cute cat shaped shoes that were originally designer–but flats never last long enough to bother with designer prices so I’m asking for the Forever 21 version. Cute, cheap, and playful.
I know a lot of guys that have a woodworking or carpentry hobby. It might not go with my apartment’s decor theme, but I would treasure anything handmade, probably forever. I have a bench a friend made me years ago and it’s one of my favorite possessions. Anything that you slave over with your hands is special, and a great gift idea.
I’m not talking about Fredricks of Hollywood or Victoria’s Secret. I’m talking about something that makes a woman feel like a 1960’s Hollywood movie starlet when she puts it on. More girly than sexy–like fancy silk and lace robe you can wear to eat breakfast.
Giving a book to someone is sexy. It keeps your relationship fresh because each person has new and interesting things to talk about at the dinner table. Readers are always growing, so at least some sense of mystery never fades. I’m a fan of going into weird non-fiction k-holes so my wish list has books like The Monster of Florence, Banished: Surviving My Years in the Westboro Baptist Church, My Story as Told by Water, and Jenna Jameson’s autobiography, How To Make Love Like A Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale.
Internet hacking tip: if you know what email address she typically uses, search it on Amazon and you might pull up her wish list. Lots of people use this feature to save books they want to buy in the future. If this fails, get her a popular non-fiction title like Contagious: Why Things Catch On.
A David Yurman ring
Screw engagement rings. They are typically kind of ugly. Engagement or no engagement, a better option is a David Yurman ring. They are beautiful without exception. They also stand out a lot more than a typical platinum/diamond combo and feel more unique to the person you are picking it out for.
Pretty, cozy gloves
I prefer cozy knit over too-fancy leather and the fingerless ones because you can keep them on inside and type when you are cold.
2014 World Cup tickets
I mean, this is a dream list, right?
I’m obsessed with the world cup, I think it is the coolest event ever because everyone gets so psyched about it and dramatically involved in the outcome of each game. Plus, next summer’s will take place in Brazil, where I’ve always wanted to visit and see the Christ the Redeemer statue and lay on some sick beaches. How much of a sweet adventure would it be to travel to a new country with your partner, especially during such an exciting time.
I have a spiritual belief that drinking champagne all the time is the best way to tell the universe that you’re celebrating life–and that it should go ahead and send you more things to celebrate. Keeping a bottle of champagne in the fridge, and having flutes around to celebrate properly, is betting on yourself (as a couple) that there will be things coming right around the corner that are cause for popping a bottle.
A puppy in a box
What person doesn’t dream about opening up a big box under the Christmas tree and having a Christmas puppy jump out?