I’m not usually a huge fan of ghosting, but honestly, sometimes I think it can be a pretty effective way to end something, especially if that something happens to be toxic or unhealthy. Dare I say that disappearing completely might actually be good for you?
Sorry to break it to you, but dating is messy af. Every relationship has its lows, but sometimes they’re so bad that honestly, it’s not even worth it anymore. So when this girl posted to Reddit about ghosting her boyfriend of five years, my first thought was, “Wow, that’s pretty cold.” My second thought? “That was probably actually a really good way to handle it.”
The post read:
I came over to his house one morning to surprise him with breakfast and a video game he wanted, only to find him naked, asleep, and with his ex curled up in his arms.
He didn’t hear me come in, so I closed his bedroom door, and left his breakfast and game on the kitchen counter along with my key to his house.
I went to my car, deactivated my Facebook, and blocked him on all other forms of social media. I then called my phone provider to change my number before driving off.
I texted family members and close friends that we were no longer together and to block him on social media, as well. I didn’t tell them why.
I was in a position to end the lease at my apartment early, and I started a new job in a different city later that week.
I completely removed myself from him and didn’t offer a shred of explanation or opportunity for dialogue. I disappeared from his life after his betrayal and I think it’ll not only help me to focus on myself without his presence, but I think completely shutting myself off from him will hurt worse than anything when he thinks on how good he had it with me these last 5 years.
Well, ouch. Sure, what she did was drastic, but you can’t say he didn’t deserve it. If you can seriously throw a 5-year relationship out the window that easily, you deserve to get your ass ghosted. And if it can help her get over what happened, more power to her.
Don’t mind us, we’re just over here taking notes.
this is bad ass. take no shit and just disappear.
— sara tonin (@dabellovdaball) January 22, 2018
https://twitter.com/horchatata/status/955306109459316737
Some people argued that she must’ve not loved him if she walked out that easily, but I don’t think that’s true. Honestly, some people know that once their partners cheat on them, they’ll never be able to trust them again. Why go through all the unnecessary drama and heartache when you could just cut them out completely?
This wasn't the best way to deal with the situation at all because now she has a bunch of unresolved feelings which she is going to carry as baggage into every one of her future relationships. She shoulda at least talked to the guy before running away from her problems.
— Jôvan (@Just_Jovan) January 22, 2018
She never loved him.
— J.Whisperer (@LittleFilmMaker) January 22, 2018
And for those of you who think he’s not going to “learn his lesson” from this, I have a feeling he’s not gonna feel great once he sees her keys sitting on the counter. Trust me, he’ll notice the freeze out.
The only problem is that he pretty much gets everything he wanted. It's good for you to put that behind him so don't get me wrong. But he isn't likely to learn much from this and the next girl will get the same treatment.
— Calm Like a Bomb 💣 (@HungerInside303) January 22, 2018
Trust me he learned a lesson. Girlfriend of 5 years leaves him with nothing said. He gonna feel that
— Tay💕 (@taylorchristeen) January 22, 2018
Honestly, this girl needs to teach a class or something because I still hold onto terrible relationships from years ago because I’m afraid to look too “dramatic.” Teach me how to burn those bridges, girl.
I only mute them and delete their numbers I need to step it up
— sara tonin (@dabellovdaball) January 22, 2018
https://twitter.com/ImBlackISAYSO2/status/955366077235630080
What can I say? This woman is a ice cold genius, and I’m living for it. 
