1. They aren’t that committed
Don’t chase those who don’t seem as committed as you. If someone genuinely is interested in you or likes you it won’t be like pulling teeth to hang out or see them.
2. Believe them
If someone tells you they’re a jerk, believe them.
3. Ya gotta see it
If someone tells you they’re a really nice guy, make sure they prove it with their actions.
4. If he promises to break your heart, he will
I was seeing a guy who told me point blank to my face “I will break your heart as hard as I can.” My first reaction was to tell him he was a good person.
He was most certainly not a good person. He was barely capable of being an okay person. I seriously wish I could go back in time, kick him as hard as I possibly could, grab Past Me by the hand, and get the hell out of there. It would saved me some major grief.