When you decide to take full responsibility for your life, you have to accept that not everyone will understand what you’re doing or why.
And how could they?
You’ve spent the last however many years living out the blueprint they sketched for you. You’ve spent the majority of your life doing exactly what other people said you would exactly as other people believed you could.
Is it any surprise that you feel empty and depressed, even though you have “everything?” That’s the thing about miserable people who have perfect lives, they’re usually living out someone else’s dream.
Healing your life is a process of becoming more radically honest with yourself than ever before. It is realizing that your time and energy on Earth is akin to a bank account with a designated amount of money in it. Once you spend it, it’s gone. There’s no depositing more.
What you invest your time in is what will appear in your life. It is what will grow.
But healing your life isn’t just a process of shifting your priorities or your behavior. At its core, healing your life is a process of healing your mind. It is recognizing that everything you’re experiencing is actually rooted back down into what and how you’re thinking.
For a long time, you thought as other people instructed you to. The whole process of growing up and becoming an individual is having the courage to reject that which doesn’t genuinely resonate with you. It is having the faith that you do not need to live your life by someone else’s rules. It is having the fearlessness to let go of what you’ve known if it isn’t serving you, even if you don’t know what’s on the other side.
If you want to live the life you were meant to live, you have to embrace that you will not be understood… or liked, even.
The world that you’re desperate to earn the approval of is filled with minds that have adopted the beliefs and lifestyles of those around them. When empty, broken people look at you being wholly yourself, they aren’t going to applaud. They are going to deny you because if they acknowledge that you’re finally free, they will also have to acknowledge that they are still not.
The whole point of waking up is not so you can continue to live a life other people approve of. It’s to live a life you’re not dreading waking up to every day.
And this is what it comes down to in the end: people who are the most unsatisfied are usually the most emotionally hungry. They are the ones who most desperately wanted others to love and approve and accept them.
What they discovered was that they couldn’t bite, shrink, quip or love their way into adjusting someone else’s agenda. There’s nothing you can do to make someone want to love you if they don’t.
All you can do, at the end of the day, is live in a way you are proud of, to exist in a manner that makes you feel at peace in the world.
That is what you get to control.
That is what you choose.
So right now, you’re becoming conscious of the internal conflict you’ve had all along: continue living for other people, or start building a life of your own.
Because maybe the whole problem is just that you’re trying to feel at ease in someone else’s world, and your entire tribe is waiting on you to start creating something new.