Here’s What Kind Of Girlfriend You Are, Based On Your Attachment Style

Jeff Isy
Jeff Isy

Secure

You’re the “wife material” girlfriend. You make the person you’re dating feel like you’re already their family. You take care of them, but you also offer them a degree of comfort that other people can’t and won’t. You aren’t afraid of commitment, and you aren’t afraid to show what commitment means to you. You care about people because of who they really are, and you’re willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.

Avoidant

You’re the hard-to-get girlfriend. You’re on or you’re off, but either way, your partner knows that landing a relationship with you is a pretty big deal. You have extremely high standards, though at the same time, you often fall for (and date) people who are oddly beneath them. It’s not that you settle, it’s that you find love where you find it, and have to be able to overlook a lot of your tendency to worry.

Anxious

You’re the intense girlfriend. You don’t do “casual dating.” You need to know where you stand. Once you fall for someone, you fall hard, and you have a really hard time detaching. You fight for your relationships, and don’t give up easily. Despite being intense, you’re also cautious – you are super aware of micro-behaviors and nonverbal cues that could tell you whether or not someone is a good fit. You’re on your toes, but your heart is all the way in.

Disorganized

You’re the high standards girlfriend. You went through a lot when you were young, and from that, you learned. You’re not going to tolerate any bullshit, and you let people know that right off the bat. Though at times in the past you have lacked discernment in your relationships, you are that much more aware of what does and doesn’t work for you now. You’re independent and ready to live your best life, and you want to find someone to come along for the ride. TC mark

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