If You Keep Protecting Your Heart It Is Never Going To Grow

Sarah Loven
Sarah Loven

Before you tell yourself that your heart has broken for the last time, before you shutter its chambers and swallow its key, remind yourself that it is a muscle.

Before you tell yourself that your heart could not possibly carry another name within its core, that it would hang too heavily in your chest, that it would weigh you down even more, remind yourself how muscle is made – how it needs weight to strengthen, how it needs pressure to restore.

Before you tell yourself that baggage is a bother, that trying stunts your growth, remember that heartbreak is the most important thing that will happen to you. It will hang like concrete in your bones, it will pile up within your words, but it will never weaken you, it will never cripple your love, for your heart needs weight to rebuild itself, your heart needs weight to grow. TC mark

Read more writing like this in Bianca Sparacino’s book Seeds Planted In Concrete here.

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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