I Do Not Want A 50/50 Relationship — Life Doesn’t Work That Way

I don’t want a fifty-fifty relationship. Life doesn’t work that way.

I want to be your strength when you simply cannot cope, when you come to me with the world on your shoulders, when your spine cannot carry the weight you hold.

I want to be your hope. I want to be the one who doesn’t walk away when things get tough. I want to be the one who proves to you that people can still win this war of love.

I want to be the one who shows you that some people still stay during the dark times, that some people still fight. I want to be your light.

I want to be your best when you are not your best. I will not judge you for your sadness, I will not resent your for your flaws. When life gets rough, know that I will always be there to hold your hand, I will always be there to turn off the world for you. I don’t want you to think that you ever have to do this by yourself.

I am with you because I want to be a part of your life — your whole life; through the good and the bad. I am with you because my heart feels compelled to beat for yours, and I will continue to choose you through the hurdles and through the highs. I know that life kicks your teeth in sometimes, and I may not know how to fix every shard of hurt and harm, but I do know how to love you — and I will love you deeply whenever things come to be too much, whenever you need a crutch.

I don’t want a fifty-fifty relationship. Life doesn’t work that way; it is real, not perfect. There are going to be moments where we will have to be more for one another, where we will have to build the other up, and I cannot wait to grow with you in those ways. I cannot wait to show you just how much I can love you when you need it the most, for I know you will do the exact same for me. TC mark

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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    This is beautiful!

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    Really beautiful <3 Thank you xo

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    love this!!

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  • http://savioni.wordpress.com Mario Savioni

    I like it. I understand that there are no clean lines down the middle. One helps more than the other and vice versa. But, there is also the issue of psychology and power. How one person appears weaker, will take the hit for the other, sometimes that appears undesirable. With all the weight of the world: move faster, work longer that capitalism demands, it is also not even the relationship that has control. I think if we weed out the rich-poor gap, there will be less pressure. But, perhaps it is instinctual. We pick people and we stay with them because they seem to stand above the others. I reckon it is superficial and not some certainty. In all my relationships, one was conspiring to get out. I don’t even think we have anything to do with whether or not they will last.

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