Bianca Sparacino

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Bianca Sparacino (aka @rainbowsalt) is a poet and creator from Toronto. She is the author of three books: Seeds Planted In Concrete, The Strength In Our Scars, and A Gentle Reminder. Her books have sold over a million copies and been translated into various languages. Her Instagram account is a daily source of inspiration for millions, as she shares her profound musings on the human experience and the contrasts of life. She is also the host of the In Your Feelings podcast, a widely beloved series about the humanness and realness of being a sensitive and feeling person. Bianca's fourth book Notes on Becoming, a collection of poetic essays on grief, healing, and seeking is due out in late 2023 via Thought Catalog Books.
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When Love Finds You Again After You’ve Given Up
Love leaves imprints everywhere, it hangs gently in the air, it always finds a way to remind you that it exists, that it is there.
Read This If You Needed Someone To Tell You They’re Proud Of You Today
If no one told you this today — I am proud of who you are becoming. Sometimes, we need others to speak what they see within us because we cannot recognize it within ourselves.
Limerence Comes Easy, But It Hurts While True Love Is Hard But Heals
The author A Gentle Reminder, Bianca Sparacino, explains the difference between possessive attachment/limerence and genuine love.
Attachment Is Egocentric, Love Is Altruistic
Attachment often disguises itself as love, but it’s rooted in need and self-focus rather than compassion. Real love isn’t about filling a void — it’s about choosing someone and nurturing a connection that feels balanced and genuine.
Grief Is Proof That You Loved Well
For anyone grieving, I just want you to know that you aren’t alone. At the end of the day, I have come to learn that grief is everything we cherish about love, distorted by pain.
Nothing Truly Beautiful Ever Asks For Attention
Nothing truly beautiful ever asks for attention – it just naturally exists, as it is, in confidence and boldness. Remember this the next time you chase someone you think you love.
When Love Finds You Again
When love finds you again, I hope it brings you someone gentle, someone kind.
If You Are In Love With Someone Who Cannot Love You Back, This Is Your Reminder
This poem is from the book A Gentle Reminder by Bianca Sparacino.
Pay More Attention To The Things That Make You Want To Get Up In The Morning
I think real happiness, true happiness, exists in the acceptance of the fact that we will always be balancing what is light and dark within ourselves. I think real happiness, true happiness, exists in the quiet. In the small things. In a morning cup of coffee, in the sound of your mother’s voice on the other end of the phone. I think real happiness, true happiness, is believing that you are meant to be here.
If No One Told You This Today — I Am Proud Of You
We need people like you in this world. We need the softness, we need the people who remind us of connection when we are all avoiding eye contact. I am proud of you for being this person in this world. The way that you love others is inspiring. And so if no one told you this today — you do not need to apologize for the way you feel. You do not need to apologize for how your heart exists here. There is courage in being the person who connects. There is bravery in staying open despite what you have been through. You should be proud of yourself for loving. Please don’t ever stop.
On Learning How To Be Alone, Because The Love You Find Within Yourself Will Be Yours Forever
It is better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel lonely. And it is better to be alone than to be settling for things that you know deep down are not for you. It is better to be alone than to make love into something you feel you have to grip at, something you have to possess, instead of something beautiful and soft. It is better to be alone than to lose yourself in the need for external validation. It is better to be alone.
If You Have Been Ghosted — This Is How You Heal And Move On
On the days that feel darkest, remind yourself that someone’s inability to choose you does not mean that you are not worthy of being chosen. Someone’s inability to respect you does not mean that you are not worthy of respect. Someone’s inability to be honest with you, does not mean that you are not worthy of honesty. Someone’s inability to be kind to you, to exit your life with compassion, does not mean that you deserved for that to happen. This is not about you. This is not about the way you care, it is not about how much more you could have done, or how much cooler, or prettier, or more interesting you could have been. This is not about you. This is a them thing.
Why Boundaries Are Imperative For Those Who Love Hard And Care Deeply
The guilt you feel when setting a boundary is not because the boundary itself is wrong, it’s because of all the deeper, limiting beliefs you have that tell you it’s wrong. That tell you it is selfish. That tell you it is uncaring. That tell you it is dismissive. That tell you it is cruel, or unloving. But the boundary isn’t any of those things. It’s not wrong to want to take care of yourself. It is not wrong to walk away from a love that only ever leaves you feeling unworthy, and trapped. It is not wrong to advocate for your heart. It is not wrong to stand up for yourself. It is not wrong.
6 Promises You Deserve To Make Yourself This Year
There is power in letting go of anything that is forcing you to let go of yourself. Don’t ignore what you know in your heart. Remember — it is better to be alone, than to feel lonely in what you’re settling for. It is better to be alone, than to try to fit your heart into the hands of someone who does not want to hold it. It is better to be alone, than to fight for someone who is not fighting for you. It is better to be alone, to be your own foundation, than to spend any more of your time waiting for someone to see the beauty in what you are giving them. You deserve good love. Promise you will let go of anything that does not feel that way, this year. Promise to stand up for your heart.
Gentle Reminders Everyone Needs To Hear Right Now
Some people come into our lives and they teach us how to love, how to hope, they show us that the goodness was always meant to find us, that it was always meant to stay. And some people, some people teach us how not to love. How not to settle. How to stand up for what we truly desire, how to choose ourselves for once, how to stop pouring into empty vessels, how to give that love back to ourselves. Either way, the lesson remains. And the scars remain. And the wounds remain. And the hurt and the hope remains. And it’s all within you, but it isn’t a testament of failure. It is a testament of faith. Because in a world that sometimes fails to love deeply, in a generation that always seems to be choosing distance over depth, you chose to believe in something. You chose to try for something.
It Is Okay To Walk Away From Those Who Do Not Know How To Love You
See, those who love the hardest, and who are the kindest souls, have often lived in a world that was not so kind to them, and have loved people who haven’t always protected their hearts. They understand what it means to be the kind of person who has been let down, they know what it is like to be walked away from, to question their heart because of that, and within that it can be extremely confusing to determine whether to stay or to fight, it can be extremely difficult to give themselves permission to stop tearing themselves apart just to make something work, because you they want to so desperately believe in the potential, and the hope they have within them, they so desperately want to protect someone from ever having to feel the way that they felt, from ever having to go through that. And so they stay.
How To Differentiate Between Genuine Connection And Toxic Attachment, Because You Deserve Something Real
Attachment is holding on very tightly. Genuine love is holding on very gently, nurturing a connection, allowing for it to be a blessing in your life and not needing it in order to feel complete or whole or validated, but rather, appreciating it. Attachment is possession. Genuine love is union. Attachment is fear. Genuine love is freedom.
Everything My Mother Taught Me About Life Before She Passed Away
You cannot love somebody into loving you. You cannot love somebody into being ready. Not everyone you feel something deep and meaningful with is going to be ready to hold your heart.