Stay Single Until You Find Someone Who Doesn’t Just Put You First

Healthy relationships are all about balance. We all want to be the best part of someone’s day, but we should never aspire to be someone’s entire life. Caring about your significant other is one of the most important aspects of a relationship, but losing yourself to try to accommodate them is no way to live your life.

If your partner immediately drops everything they are doing to please you, you may be flattered and impressed the first few times it happens. But what if this pattern becomes the rest of your lives together? You are getting everything you want while they are sitting at your side, losing everything they ever worked towards for themselves.

We are taught from a young age to be selfless and to give to others, but what we are not taught is how to give to ourselves. Rarely are we encouraged to take a break and take a moment to just breathe. In our culture, it is often frowned upon to practice self-care. We have all become so conditioned to put ourselves last that most of us couldn’t even find ourselves if we tried.

Love your partner with all that you have, but please, love yourself, too. One of the most attractive things a person can do is to care about themselves. You cannot possibly give your all to a relationship and be your best self if you never take time for yourself. If a person takes good care of themselves, then you can be certain that they are also capable of taking care of you.

No one wants to be in a one-sided relationship. No one wants to be the bad person after years of their partner self-sacrificing and self-destructing.  Someone can only put someone else first for so long before they break. You can only ignore your needs for so long before they start to bring you down.

Stay single until you find someone who doesn’t just put you first. Stay single until you find someone who wants to be your equal. Stay single until you meet someone who not only understands what you need to thrive, but also knows what they need, too.

Stay single until you find someone who complements rather than completes you. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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Becky Curl

Like if a unicorn were a person going through an emo phase.