I’m a person who is easily influenced by others.
If someone is in a bad mood I tend to sync to their mood and find something to be upset about. I worry about other people’s opinions, sometimes more than my own. I’ll wear things I don’t feel completely comfortable in because it’s the norm and I’m told it looks good. I’ll let my friends influence me on certain guys. I’ll ask if they think he’s cute, what I should text back, or even if I should text back.
I’ve come to realize that all asking and seeking approval from others does is leave me feeling confused, empty and torn most of the time.
I’ve come to the point now where it’s time to start using my voice, putting my foot down and speaking up for what I really want.
If I don’t like something then I’m no longer going to feel obligated to do it. You should never put yourself in an uncomfortable situation just to please someone else, just to try to make them happy.
Because if you’re not doing it for you, there is no point in doing it.
If your parents want you to be a lawyer because you’ll make good money and be well off, but the thought of law school and devoting years of your life to schooling sounds terrible to you, don’t do it!
If your friends are trying to influence you to talk to a guy because he might be sweet and kind to you, but you don’t feel a connection with him, stop talking to him! (Just don’t ghost, of course, because that’s rude.)
If you don’t want to do something in life don’t do it because the reality is that no matter what you do (or don’t do) it will never be enough for some people.
There will be people who always want more, more and even more from you because to them you will never be good enough.
You have to stop focusing on everyone else’s wants and needs and start focusing on yourself. Because when you stop and look around the room when you’re 70 years old what will you have? Who will be by your side? Will you have lived the life you dreamed about? That is what is important.
If your friends only keep you around because it’s convenient for them I can almost gaurentee those ‘friends’ won’t be there when your old and need a hand.
If you spend your whole life living on others terms and never truly do anything that makes you happy when your old will you have a heart filled with regret of all the choices you didn’t make and all the things you failed to do while you were too busy trying to please others?
Don’t be that person anymore. Don’t try to make others happy. Don’t seek validation from people who don’t really care about you. Don’t stress yourself out over trying to please everyone because honestly, you will NEVER make everyone you come across happy. You won’t like everyone you come across and that is fine because I can also guarantee that not everyone you meet will like you, either.
Do what you love to do, find your thing and once you do, do it great.
People that truly love you will support you, even when you fuck up and everything goes wrong. Those are the people who are important. Find what you were created to do, no matter how many fuck ups and failures it takes.
If art is your thing, do art, find a way to make it work for you and run with it. Who cares if your parents wanted you to be a doctor, if art is your thing, create art. If they truly love you they will support you because you found what makes you happy.
No one is going to live your life for you, so start living for yourself. Do what you love and what fills you with joy, whether it makes you rich or poor, stay true to who you are and what you love. The rest will all fall into place.