7 Signs Your Not-A-Relationship Is Actually Becoming One

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You look for every chance to talk about them

You search for little ways to insert them in whatever conversation you’ve having. Simply talking about them in the context of your life together, as it’s the way it has always been, is a high for you.

You say you’re taken when someone hits on you, and it doesn’t even feel like a lie

This is, and always has been, the easiest way to let someone down without any hurt feelings. I know, I know, we should just be honest and say, “Hey, thanks, but not interested.” But that’s…hard to do. So when someone approaches you on the dance floor and makes a move, you are ready to pull out the fake relationship card. But something bizarre happens when you say, “I have a boyfriend/girlfriend.” You kind of…feel like you really do. It’s like you just finally said the words you’ve been secretly dying to say down deep for the first time.

They know you in ways you didn’t know someone could

They understand you, they see through you, and having someone know you this well, having someone to tell your every passing thought and anxiety to, and seeing how they become more interested rather than less, shows you that they’re in it too. For real.

You hold hands in public

This is such a simple, yet telling physical act two people can do. Maybe she reaches out to you as you’re strolling down the street together, or he reassuringly interlocks his fingers with yours. Hands are so communicative, and by holding onto each other, it’s a statement of affection that at the same time says, “Hey world! This is a definite thing happening right here.”

You say the word “ours”

Maybe the first few times you didn’t even mean to, it just sort of slipped out and you thought, HOLD UP, WOAAAH. But then it just came naturally, and it’s a consistent term you both throw around with ease.

You talk about your parents, and someone says, “I can’t wait to meet them.”

Knowing someone’s family, whether through blood or those they choose, is a huge part of understanding who that person is and where they come from. Taking the initiative to get to know these other aspects of the person you care about is monumental, and speaks volumes on their importance.

You talk about future holidays

You talk about futures in general, all with the slight undertone of: “This is what I want… with you.” And the best part, it doesn’t seem to freak either of you out. TC mark

Ari Eastman

✨ real(ly not) chill. poet. writer. mental health activist. mama shark. ✨

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