10 Things You’ll Only Understand If You’re A Girl With A Guy Best Friend

Dave Borovsky
Dave Borovsky

Having a guy BFF has its perks and it’s downfalls but the one thing that is certain is that in the end they are always there for you. They have your back and while people may ‘ship’ you together, you know where you stand and you know that 20 years later they will still be there.


1. They’re instantly more forgiving.

When you mess up, which you aren’t immune to doing just because you’re girl, they don’t take long to forgive. A sincere apology and a tub of ice-cream or box of chocolates later you BFF’s again. Whereas for a girlfriend fight, it means a whole of tear shedding, gossiping and weeks of barely speaking to each other.

2. They have your back, no matter what.

That girl called you something mean, your guy BFF will have words with her or with her boyfriend. Some guy treated you badly, he will come back to apologize once your BFF has dealt with him. Maybe you’re wrong and the opposing party is right but in the heat of the moment they will defend you. In private they will give you their opinion but when you needed him he was there and that’s all that matters.

3. They keep your secrets like a chamber.

First off, yes that was a total Harry Potter reference! Second, this is to extent true. As human we can spread secrets and gossip like fire can spread in a forest but this depends on your level of friendship. Having a guy best friend means having him at the highest level, close enough that the minute you say you have something to tell them, they start swearing the oath.

4. They’re great listeners.

Maybe they don’t understand necessarily why you hate your body or why you spent two hours crying over some boy but they do listen. They spend hours listening to you rant and the fervently agree with you. Sometimes they become protective enough to kill whoever hurt you and then you know that he truly is your best friend.

5. You’re going to get nicknames, no matter what.

You complain and say you hate them with a strong vengeance but on the inside you love them. Only your guy BFF is allowed to call you something utterly ridiculous, like princess waffle marshmallow fluff. Anyone else who tried to pull that would meet terribly painful death.

6. Don’t believe the rumors; there will be drama.

The myth that ‘guy BFF’s have less drama in a friendship’. That’s not true. Guys can get mood swings and jealous and hormonal. They can backbite about with the guys and can ditch you in heartbeat if they wanted too. But the point is, if your friendship is strong enough you’ll be able to withstand all the drama.

7. Everyone thinks you’re dating or like each other.

Every small action your guy BFF does becomes something glorified and romantic. When nothing about your relationship is romantic. He gives you his jacket to wear when it’s cold because he’s a gentlemen not because he wants to date you. Above all this, the comments people share, spreading gossip that you two ‘are just too shy to confess your feelings’ Please people, it’s the 21st Century, guys and girls can be just friends.

8. You’ll get jealous easily.

Chances are you’re going to pick a best friend who is amazing, funny, sweet and all over a pretty good guy. That just means he’ll have ample amount of girls draping across him. You will spend most of your thought space worrying about whether or not he will forget you and move on to another best friend just because he has the ability too. However, remember he picked you to be his best friend over a sea of other girls because you are amazing to him.

9. They don’t quite understand everything you go through.

That’s not really their fault. They won’t understand PMS or why you spend an hour in the bathroom. They won’t always get your issues and they won’t be able to give you guy advice because they don’t understand most of the relationship themselves. They care and they’ll try but sometimes you need your girl BFF because your guy one just won’t get it, at all.

10. They aren’t the most sensitive.

Personally, I don’t think guys in general realize what their words mean. It’s sad to say that a compliment from a guy means more than a compliment from a girl or a family member. It’s even sadder that you need a compliment to feel good nowadays. But it’s happening and it’s real and guys just don’t seem to get it. There backhand comments hurt more than they realize and because you fear being the ‘psycho girl BFF’ you don’t say anything. But it hurts and you stay silent. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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