1. Your detailed plans for the future.
There’s nothing wrong with having goals. In fact, it’s smart to prepare for the future. But creating a thorough timetable of everything that you should do in your life and ensuring that you adhere to it all the damn time is just impossible. Nobody has a complete idea of what his or her future is going to be like. You can allow yourself to be guided by your plans, but you can never expect them to accurately align with your reality. Shit happens and the way you can roll with it is to clear your mind with so many expectations and learn how to be resilient.
2. The assumption that you know everything about a certain person.
When you’re wondering whether or not you know the person right in front of you, it’s best to assume that you don’t. People have so many layers. And believing that you’re all too familiar with who they are, just because of what they told you and what you saw on social media, will only lead you to a massive disappointment. We all have feelings that we bottle up. We all have thoughts that we never say. The things that we don’t show to people also define us. You can’t fully claim you know someone unless they explicitly tell you that you do.
3. Fear of not being the best.
Surely, there is someone who is going to be smarter, prettier, wealthier, and funnier than you — this is a fact. It’s a waste of time to mope around and feel sorry for yourself for not being the best out there. You are not here to be number one on all things. You are here to have a good time, to be wild, to be happy. Throw away your idea of perfection. It’s okay to not follow all the rules sometimes.
4. That voice inside your head that says you can’t do it.
Doubts can ruin your performance in anything that you do. It’s not easy to eliminate them out of your mind for good, but you can try to control them. Think of what can go right in every situation instead of what can go wrong. Take good care of your mental health the same way you take good care of your body. Remember that you have the power over your brain and you get to pick the kind of thought that enters it.
5. All the decisions that you made using your feelings.
We have that particular moment in our lives that we wish we could take back. There are some words we wish we shouldn’t have said. Every one of us has regrets. And, sometimes, some of these regrets are due to the impulse decisions that we made before. While it’s true that we can no longer do anything about the past, we can at least try to be careful with our actions now and hope to make more intelligent decisions in the future.
6. Someone who makes love complicated.
If the other person is making the relationship harder, then it’s time to call it quits. I’m sure you have infinite things to do in life than worry about someone else. The love that is worth chasing is the one that doesn’t make you frown and scratch your head. Don’t accept any excuse from anyone who doesn’t return the affection that you’re giving them. It’s better to be on your own than be beside someone who constantly gives you heartache.
7. The city that you thought you loved.
Your interests change from time to time. What you’re obsessing over now may not be the same thing that you will love after few months. Leaving a place that gave you some of your best moments in life is painful. It’s disheartening to pack up your bags and walk away from the city that changed you. But the world is so huge to be left unexplored. It’s way too early for you to settle down. Take advantage of this part of your life where you still have the energy to search for a community that you can truly call home.
8. Your desire for permanence.
You will save your heart from breaking over and over again by simply believing that nothing in this world is guaranteed. It’s possible that you can lose everything in one bat of an eye. The person that you like so much could change their mind about you. The empire that you’ve been building for years could crumble to dust in just a short period of time. Tomorrow is going to be different in some ways. So don’t take for granted the things that you’re enjoying right now.
9. Those who don’t respect the space that you need.
Setting a boundary isn’t a bad thing. You are not compelled to share sensitive personal information with anyone just because they’re nice to you. If people can’t respect the space that you need sometimes, then they’re probably not worth investing your attention with. Everyone deserves a time to themselves. Everyone reaches a point where they feel the need to take a step back, pause, and just breathe. You don’t have to constantly explain yourself when you suddenly get the urge to be somewhere else for a while.
10. The things that don’t serve you well anymore.
It’s hard to let go of the memories that used to fill your heart with joy, I know that. But you won’t be able to completely move forward in your life if you allow your history to hold you back. Life is always moving. Sometimes it helps you get to where you want to be. Sometimes it points you to directions that surprise you. And more often than not, you have no choice but to go with it. You have to be courageous to forget the things that no longer serve you well. You have to be always ready for new beginnings and leave all the unimportant things in your life behind. That’s the best way you can access the peace that resides within your heart.