Whether you’ve been together a matter of days, or over a decade, this is the non-material gift your woman craves this holiday season. (Women: Curious about what he wants? Read this.)

Aries:

March 21 – April 20

The gift of your attention. She’s fast-paced and curious, always exploring and wanting to do rather than be still. This Christmas, the best non-material gift you can give her is your attention—show her that you’re here, you’re listening, you’re present, and you want to embark on an journey together, literal or emotional.

Taurus:

April 21 – May 21

The gift of your loyalty. Your Taurus woman is peaceful, caring, and deliberate. What she craves the most in your relationship is knowing that you are here to stay and that she doesn’t have to worry about putting her heart fully in your hands. This holiday season, show that you’re dedicated to her by showing your serious commitment to her.

Gemini:

May 22 – June 21

The gift of your mind. Your Gemini is wild with ideas and thoughts. She’s constantly moving, constantly searching, constantly wanting to discover who you really are. What she really wants for Christmas is the gift of your mind—knowing the you that you hide from the rest of the world.

Cancer:

June 22 – July 22

The gift of security. She takes her relationships very seriously, dedicated with every ounce of her soul to the people she loves. When it comes to you, she’s no different. She craves, most of all, security in your relationship. This Christmas, show her that you’re intentions for this relationship are good, and that you have invested your heart just as much as she has.

Leo:

July 23 – August 22

The gift of appreciation. Your Leo partner flourishes under praise. When she’s recognized, when she’s cared for, when you notice the little things she does for you—she absolutely glows. This holiday season, gift her with your affection and thankfulness. Show her how lucky you feel to be her man.

Virgo:

August 23 – September 22

The gift of your service. Virgo women sometimes have a hard time saying no. They take so much upon themselves because they care, because they want to help others, because the people in their life matter. Show your love and dedication to your Virgo by gifting your service—lend a helping hand, be a shoulder, offer to take some of her load. She will be so incredibly thankful that you notice and that you offer, even if she doesn’t accept your help.

Libra:

September 23 – October 22

The gift of your patience. Your Libra craves balance and order. Sometimes she tries so hard to make things work, or make people happy, but gets wrapped up in trying to be everything to everyone. And sometimes you get frustrated because you just want to tell her to stop worrying so much about everything around her. This Christmas, soothe her heart with your patience. Show her that she is good enough and that she doesn’t have to scramble, or try so hard to make everything fall into place. She is worthy, just as she is.

Scorpio:

October 23 – November 21

The gift of your emotional side. Your Scorpio woman is often in her own head—mind spinning, feelings running wild. She feels everything deeply, so this Christmas, gift her with your emotions. Show her how you’re feeling, what you’re thinking, what matters to you. Let her fully in, and don’t be afraid.

Sagittarius:

November 22 – December 21

The gift of adventure. She doesn’t need expensive things or a lavish lifestyle; what matters most to your Scorpio is that you have an adventurous spirit, and want to be adventurous alongside her. This year, inspire her with your ideas, with your plans, with moments where you can stand arm in arm, exploring the world.

Capricorn:

December 22 – January 20

The gift of your focus. Your Capricorn woman likes to plan ahead. She often has a schedule, a goal, an idea of what she wants to do or where she wants to go. This Christmas, show her that you’re just as serious by giving her the gift of your focus. Pay attention to what she says, listen without distractions, and think ahead when it comes to plans for the two of you.

Aquarius:

January 21 – February 19

The gift of your generous spirit. An Aquarius woman is very kind. She’s the type of person who’s always there when you need someone—always ready to lend a hand, an ear, or her total attention. This Christmas, show her that you’re more than ready to meet her halfway. Whether through your undivided attention, your kindness, or your care, gift her with your generous spirit. Treat her with the love and joy she so often pours into you.

Pisces:

February 20 – March 20

The gift of your vulnerability. A Pisces woman is highly emotional. She thinks with her heart and is often found imagining, over-thinking, or lost somewhere in her daydreams. What means the most to her, though, is that the two of you are emotionally connected. So this Christmas, show her who you are behind your mask. Reveal your secrets, your desires, your fears. Get vulnerable and messy with her, and watch your relationship grow.