It’s okay to miss him or her. It doesn’t mean you’re pathetic or dramatic. It doesn’t mean you are weak. It just means that the love you had mattered.

A lot of people think there’s a time limit to grief. They tell you, don’t worry in six months you’ll be laughing about this. Don’t worry in three weeks, you’ll be good as new.

Here’s the thing, grief has no stop and go point. There is no end date. There is no timeline. Grief isn’t linear. So no, you may not be fine in three weeks or six months. But you are growing. You are strengthening your heart. Despite what you may feel like and despite what other people are saying.

It’s more than okay to miss the person who broke your heart. It’s human nature to crave their love. It’s human nature to want them back. It’s okay to talk about this person nonstop until your friends are rolling their eyes back at you. It’s normal to feel so blue, and to feel like you will never get your happiness back. It’s okay to cry for them.

It’s human nature to miss someone who used to be your ‘person’. Frankly I’d be worried if you didn’t miss them.

If your love was real and true, your heart is going to yearn for them. Your heart is going to break over and over again. Your soul is going to be crying out for them. You are going to have a breakdown once ever day. You are going to feel like you are dying.

But you aren’t going to die.

I know you don’t see a future without this person. You can’t picture a life that is good and pure without this person. And you don’t see the point in going on. You don’t see the point of going on without them.

Please give yourself compassion. Please give yourself the care and love that he used to give you. I know you think you don’t deserve it. You don’t think you are worth anything right now.

But you are worth a life that is beautiful — without this person.

Tell yourself that it’s ok to be feeling how you are feeling. That it’s ok to cry when you need to. That it’s ok to take a day off from work and wallow. That it’s ok to feel sad even when it’s been months or years or decades.

You’re allowed to feel sad. You’re allowed to feel like life will never be the same. You’re allowed to feel like your smile will never be genuine again. You’re allowed to feel like you are broken.

But don’t let this pain destroy your future. Don’t let this pain impact your life so much so, that you really do break. Don’t let this pain dictate your journey to finding happiness.

Don’t let their leaving destroy your life.

You are worth more than this person who left. You are worth more than someone who had the audacity to run from your heart and run from your love. So please know, it’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to feel let down and it’s okay to feel betrayed.

Just don’t let this person ruin you. And don’t let their leaving ruin your outlook on love and your life.