They should promise to stand by you when you’re struggling.
Your person shouldn’t go MIA whenever you’re dealing with a problem and then magically reappear when the seas are calm again. They should be there for you, through good times and bad. When you’re at your lowest, they should be there to remind you that everything is going to be okay. Even if they can’t change your mood, they can make sure you know you’re not alone. You have them to bounce ideas off of when you’re lost and you have them to lean on when you’re crumbling. No matter what, they’ll always be there.
They should promise to stay faithful.
They should never make you feel like you’re competing with someone else for their attention. They should make you a priority and make sure that you always know how much they care about you. They should remember that actions speak louder than words and saying I love you isn’t enough to make you feel their love. They have to back up what they’re saying with their behavior. They have to make sure their heart belongs to you and only you.
They should promise to make an effort, even once you’ve been together for years.
They should put the same amount of energy into your relationship years down the line that they put in when they were trying to date you. Even though there will be times when they’re burnt out or dealing with other issues, when they won’t be able to give you their full attention, they will always try their best. They will never make you feel like an inconvenience or a mistake. They will make sure you realize how much you’re loved, because they would never want you to feel taken for granted.
They should promise to stay truthful with you.
Instead of locking up their real feelings in order to keep the peace or save you from their drama, they’ll be honest with you about what they’re going through. They won’t shut you out in order to protect you – or protect themselves. They’ll always tell you the truth, even when it’s hard to hear. There won’t be any secrets between the two of you. They should trust that you’re strong enough to get through anything together.
They should promise to stay respectful.
Even when they’re arguing with you, they should treat you with respect. They shouldn’t say the nastiest things they can think of in order to upset you. And they shouldn’t badmouth you to their friends or family members or everyone on the internet. They should stand by your side and treat you the way you deserve, and you should do the same, no matter what you’re up against.
They should promise to listen to you.
Instead of automatically getting defensive, they should listen to what you have to say. They should hear you out whenever you have a problem and they should work toward compromises with you. The should care about your feelings, even if they don’t fully understand your feelings. They should never make you feel crazy or overdramatic when you’re expressing your honest emotions.
