Remember This When Adulting Gets Too Damn Hard

Growing up, you observed other adults around you and thought they all had their shit together. Everyone seems to have it together. But that’s far from the truth. Now that I’m an adult, I understand that nobody has their shit figured out and we’re all in this together. We’re all doing the best we can with what we know.

I’m so fucking lost.

Nobody ever told me that this whole soul-searching, career exploration, modern dating, and self-love language is so incredibly frustrating. It’s a never-ending work-in-progress. Tell me it’s okay to be so fucking lost. That it’s okay to have no idea what I’m doing in any aspect of my life.

I feel kind of really shitty.

We all feel this way from time to time. Some days you’re at the top of the mountain, and other days you feel like you hit rock bottom because everything seems to have gone wrong. Like literally, everything. But I always try to be positive and believe that everything happens for a reason. That there’s something good out of every bad thing, a blessing in disguise or a lesson that you need to learn. A pain that you had to go through in order to grow and become stronger.

Whatever you’re going through, you’re allowed to feel shitty. You’re allowed to cry your heart out, take a long-ass nap, and just lie in bed all day because you’re so fucking tired. You’re allowed to shut off your phone and not respond to anyone or see anyone for a long time. You’re allowed to cancel plans to be in solitude. Give yourself as much time as you need. But always be gentle with yourself. And be patient while you heal from within. But after you drown yourself in sorrow, make sure you pick yourself right back up and face the goddamn world.

I wrote this as a love letter to you (even with all the profanity). I want you to know that you’re not alone. You and I are both human, and we are going to feel things, make up dumb stories in our heads, and believe them. We’re going to have negative self-talks (which we have to be aware of when it happens and STOP). We’re going to mess up from time to time and go through a number of crises and rebuild ourselves over and over again. But we’re also going to experience a lot of beautiful things that life has to offer.

So keep being human. Keep being you. And stay strong. Let’s support one another not just through the good times, but the shitty ones too. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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